Disrespectful or not!

Having marriage issues, fighting all the time......so we split up to cool off a bit and re-evaluate our marriage. The news of our situation must of spread fast because a day later, a guy friend of my wife shows up at our house, she lets him in, ends up talking and partying all night long! Although I trust my wife, I say it's total disrespect for him to show up, knowing she's alone. I also think it's wrong of my wife to allow him in, especially after having discussed my feelings about having other men in our house while I'm not home. The same situation happened last year and she knows how I feel about it. I think this would upset anyone, and it it didn't, they don't love their spouse very much. My wife says I'm just jealous, and don't trust her. I would love to hear other peoples thoughts on this......thanks!

My opinion as a women its very disrespectful for your wife to allow another man into your home. You have to evaluate if this could be the reason for all the fighting. She may want to move on but doesn't know how to say it. What would her reaction be if you partied with another women so soon after your split? I just feel for someone to entertain another man so quickly maybe she doesn't love you as much as she claims. Good luck

Hi! I wouldn't bring your level of love into this right now. You guys are clearly having issues and unless I misunderstood, this happened last year too? Maybe you guys need to sit down and really talk out your issues. Fighting is whatever, you have to choose the level you will put up with not anyone else. But it would seem that you have already decided that you have had enough of the fighting. On the point about having a man over so soon. Yes I think it is disrespectful of this friend and I would even go as far as to say he is suspect. As a woman, maybe she needed to feel sexy and wanted after being hurt (I have no idea what you guys are fighting about so I can only assume no one is really happy). It is not an excuse just a reason, now is that a reason you can deal with? Because if so then you guys may need to talk about your guidelines and even go as far as to talk about your sex life. Wanting others to make you feel desirable is one semi-understandable thing but right after a separation, especially if this happens regularly, is the sign of deeper issues you guys can fix if you talk it out. Remind her how you feel about her and how she makes you feel, start there and keep going with fact and solutions, no finger pointing even in this case. If you don't want to fix it, point fingers all you want but it sounds like there is enough fight left in you to try and work this out. Hope that helps and good luck!