How to reconnect with a man

Seven months ago My friend broke off our relationship. He claimed I was too needy. We were never intimate, only dating. I still have feelings for him, and I would like to try again. I don't believe in his reason for the break up. Mainly because his words and actions did not line up the week of the break up. I think he was just scared of his own feelings, and maybe felt like he was getting out of control. Maybe enough time has pasted it could be like new. But I need help in what to say to get him to open up to me again.

Hi! Yup, I agree with GWENDO. We all try to understand why people do things or act the way they do so we don't have to look at our part in things. We tend to think that they don't want what they said because how could they possibly know what they want. Maybe look back at the relationship through his eyes and see if he has some points. There is always someplace to look for improvement. Not judging just speaking from personal experience. :) Hope that helps and good luck!

Thank you. Yes I agree with you and "GWENDO" I did something to make him feel that way. But I corrected my actions. The break up happened after the correction was complete, and the issue was forgiven and over. Therefore that was not the "reason" it was the excuse. All is forgiven. I dont care about why it happened, I just want a second chance. Everyone deserves a seond chance. We had a good thing going and its ashame and a waste. I need advice on how to get the conversation going with him, thats all I'm asking. Even if it dosnt work out thats fine, but I really want to try. Thank you

I'm sorry Darthgirl but I feel that if you bring this up to him it will be yet again and you will damage the friendship further. In no way was I saying you did anything wrong in your relationship (I wasn't there) just that maybe he had a point in why he was unhappy. So the end point is he was unhappy forgiven or not for one reason or another. Starting this up again will not fix things so is there any way you can just cut ties, even for a bit, and not let him cloud your head anymore? I think that is the best way. :)