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I currently work in a country I hate. I have always wanted to go outside, coz i have lived outside and i know the world is a better place than this. I ended up coming here coz my parents wanted me to.. they didn't have the funds to sponsor my education somewhere else. I always thought i would move out and marry someone outside. But instead, I fell in love with an amazing guy, who is caring.. I am his first gf in life. Somewhere in me the evil side of me wonders how he survived 25yrs without a gf.. He always makes calculative decisions. I fell for him coz he is not one of the immature jerks there are around here. He has lived here all his life, yet he is so different.. Ok so the problem starts where he plans to do his MBA in this goddamned country and I am dying to get out. He is perfect otherwise and everyday I cry my eyes out every night at the thought of living here for the rest of my life. I thought of doing my MBA outside and move out, but when we get married I will have to live with him.. and if he is going to be stuck in this shit hole, I might as well just die... It is painful for me to move out. He has tried getting into colleges outside this place but unfortunately couldn't make it. Plus he gonna take an educational loan.. When I do my MBA, i am gonna take a loan too. How r we gonna both manage with loans? I live in a community where my mother is on my throat for not getting married yet(I'm just 24.. but EVERYBODY here is on a spree to get married asap............. God, i cannot just start with all the problems I have to see every day of my life...) My bf knows how much I hate it here. He says he will try his best to get outside, but that is all it is.. In the hope of getting something... It's gonna crush me like how he got rejects from the universities outside.. I spend 2 days crying over it... Living here has made me depressed beyond an extent.. I feel damaged.. What do i do with my life? Plz don't ask me to work here, coz i will seriously end up trying to take my life.. It is just painful living here.. And i have tried asking for a transfer(they won't let u take one until u get married and i cannot get married to a guy who has not got a job yet.. u cant blame me for wanting to leave asap). I don't want to leave my bf.. he is just the sweetest person..

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Okay, I know you said "don't tell you to work" but sweetie, if you truly want to get out of there, you will work your butt off to do so. You have a goal: get out of where ever you are. How do you accomplish that goal: do your damndest to do so. In this day and age, you need money and education. Work hard, and save up your money! Get outta that country, and go some where better. Get the education you need and work hard in school. But NEVER let one person be the reason why you don't accomplish a goal. I know you love your boyfriend, but if y'all are truly meant to be, you'll make it through this. You need to trust in that. do what makes YOU happy and work to get there!

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