I don't know what to do!

Hi to everyone! What a great web site :) OK- erm....... iv been with this guy for nearly 2 years and everything has been great but recently all we do is argue! (heard this before!!!) The thing is i happened to meet him whilst i had a grand plan of travelling, but he does not want to for fear he will lose his job and not get one as good! we live seperately but spend everynight together, iv suggested that we he move in together but he wants to give it 2 more years saving :( so here is the thing i have money to travel just sat in my account which i would quite happily use as a deposit for a flat with him but he wants to save more! guys im just petrified im hanging around waiting for something that isnt going to work, but im affraid if i leave im going to regret it my whole life because i think he is perfect in every other way! can talk to friends because we share our social group, cant talk to family because i want them to love him too! ANY IDEAS?

it appears you are in the same position as me!!! maybe there is something he isnt telling you..? some secret that he cant say and if you live together you will find out...he is probably arguing with you so you do the breaking up...that way he can blame you...i have been all through this and am on the verge of calling it a full stop break..although i really love my guy..

Hi Carebear, You need to talk to him about it, Tell him how you feel, tell him you'd happily sort out a flat deposit etc if thats all the issue is, find out if the saving is just an excuse maybe hes notready for that commitment of living togeather just yet?, Arguing before you have even lived togeather seems like a bad sign to me though, get your differences out in the open ask him how he would feel if you went off travelling and came back once hes saved and ready to settle down? Good luck Babes x

Ohhhh and dont put your life and your grand plans on hold for a guy..if he loves you he'll understand how much it means to you and not hold you back, you might end up regretting the things you didnt do in years to come rather than the man you may or may not leave behind. Its pretty hard to travel and see the world once your settled with house payments and a family by your side.

Hi, It really depends on you,what you think.So first listen ur heart voice b4 doing any hard job. Reply soon

thanks for all your replies :) we have had a huge heart to heart and he said he didnt realise i was so sad and that he was so sorry, he has since been a treat :) we are going away for new years and we are going to review the relationship when we get back because we do not want to make eachother suffer in a relationship that might be falling apart! so we are going to give it another go:) fingers crossed- i think!