Should I forgive unsupportive man?

I was with my ex partner 4 and a half years. we had 2 children, bought a home together and planned our wedding, then my mum died suddenly, less than 2yrs after my dads sudden death both of them were in their 50s.Obviously i was a mess but I found my ex partner really unsupportive. I felt he actually made my grieving process worse. Although i was in a mess i calmly told him over an over again to just leave me alone and not pressure me but he just behaved really out of character and made things hell. he would tell me everyday how my "moods" affected him and all this was literally WEEKS after she passed. I ended things, canceled the wedding and sold my half of the house to him but recently we have been gettin on and i wonder if it would ever be possible to go back? He hurt me and let me down badly when i needed him but before that we were a loving happy couple and a content little family. I wonder if he is the man for me (i was soooo sure and happy before) and the horrendous situation pushed us apart? he wasnt very supportive when my dad died either so it makes me think . . hes perfect in most ways but when i need him in time of crisis he isnt there. so should i just move on and stop thinkin about it or do i owe it to everyone to make a go of it and could i let go of the resentment?

Hey Lola! Look, this kind of situation that you post about is unfortunately not out of the norm these days. We live in a very non sympathetic/ empathic society these days. Surely you've noticed? Well, from what you said, your husband is neither empathic or sympathetic to your needs. Sometimes it's just a bloody 'male thing', but alot often it's not just males. Some people, I'm afraid, just can't 'feel' for others, put themselves in other peoples shoes and put there needs temporarily before there loved ones. I think you should explore his background ie. mother if you want some understanding. Let me ask, if he sneezes, he's got 'THE FLU'? Let me know if you want to talk more. Kate