Saw a text message that I should not have seen

› Hello, I need some advice .. I read my girlfriends texts one night... I know I should have not done that but it seemed like she was hiding stuff from me. Anyway I found out that she went to her ex husbands house one night to watch a movie with him. She told me she fell asleep watching tv that night. It's really bothering me and I want to confront her but I don't want to tell her how I found out. What should I do? I don't want to lose her but this is really bothering me and I will always think of this if I just ignore it. This girl is like no other girl I've dated before. I feel like she was meant for me.. Thanks for any advice I can get

Hi There! I hope this helps but it will be brutally honest. But first I must ask, does she have children with her ex? And, did he divorce her or vice-versa? If 'yes' to the kids, then maybe they have an agreement with each other to show a united front from time to time for the kids sake. If 'no', be worried. If he divorced her (none of this 'amicable' stuff), be worried because she probably hasn't emotionally moved on from him. The fact of the matter is that, from what you've said, she has already, in a sense, cheated on you by not telling you what she actually ended up doing that night. Putting it simply, she lied to you. And IF it was an amicable divorce and they have remained platonic friends (which is what I suspect she will use in her defence if confronted), then why couldn't she tell you that as well? My guess is that she has lied to you and will lie again. I'm sorry, but I really smell a rat here. And although I don't condone snooping I do believe that you were maybe using your gut instinct in the first place (that's why you're posting this) So don't beat yourself up. As far as I'm concerned don't confront her yet, think about what I've said first. As they say, "Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship blah blah blah". Now, I don't know who 'THEY' are, but 'THEY' surely can't be wrong! Let me know how you go. Kato

Hi thanks for responding. She has no kids with him and it was her idea to get the Divorce. She says they are just friends but I'm not sure. I think she is too nice to him and may be giving him false ideas. This is the type of girl that I would marry someday but this kind of stuff can't happen. How do I approach her about me looking at her phone without the situation getting turned around and myself getting yelled at by her? I really can forgive her for this but first she needs to tell me the truth and I want to know that I will always be getting the truth from her. Thanks again

Bro ! Although harsh you have to confront her @ be honest,or it will keep bothering you.I also have went threw my gf phone because she would act weird, Like she was hideing something @ she was.I confronted her @ it felt good to get it off my chest as a man.