Help!

hi. if anyboby can offer me some advice i'd be very grateful. here goes... ... i started to spend time with a recently separated guy, as friends. his ex had been unfaithful to him and dumped him and as a result he'd try to kill himself. they have kids together and she is now with the new guy. he started to push for a relationship with me but i said no as i didnt want to be his rebound. he and his ex eventually tried to give things another go very briefly, she was going thru alot and they kissed a couple of times. she then dumped him again and went back to the other bloke. i eventually decided to give things ago with him but during this time he was drinking heavily and he got drunk with his wife, although i know that nothing happened between them. recently he's stopped drinking and his behaviour around his ex has been really good and i feel he is committed to me. my problem is that i am having difficulty to let go of the past and forgive him for chasing me and then going back to his ex, and also for getting drunk with her. i know he was messed up at the time ... but still. i really like him and we get on great and we're really close, talking alot, etc .. my dilemma is i'm finding it really difficult to forgive, trust and i dont know if i should. ive been stung before in relationships. basically i want to know should i forgive and give our relationship a go or get rid and move on?? help!!

Hi, After reading ur story i would suggest first u should ask urself whether u can go with that man which already has a relationship with other women.If you continue ur relation with him and he continue to have sexual relation with his ex then it will hurt you as well as later this will collapse ur life. So it would be better to move on.This would hurt a lot in beginning but later you will feel ok. A relation is like a bond.So find a partner who is only devoted to your love. Reply back.

get rid and move on!- do it right now! she will always be in your life because of the kids, she will always know him better, know how to get to him, just drop by to say hi, call because the kids are sick, need him at xmas etc etc if your jealous now it will only get worse! escape while you can and find someone who isnt laced with problems :) everyone deserves to be happy, if your not get out before you begin to feel unable to! do you really want your kids to grow up with hers? can you deal with sharing him your whole life? sounds bad to me babe-id run as fast as i could! good luck :)