What to do when your husband refuse to speak to solve problems

Things happened quite fast between me and my husband. We met when I was a language student and had a short dating period before deciding to get married. After that it seems I have so much in my plate when I am still adjusting to the new status from single to married, from foreign student to a wife, from a citizen to having temporary residence permit, from very in demand in work into "I'm sorry, you dont speak our language well enough and the diploma from your country is not recognized by our government" and many more including being a summer step mum after a month wedding (he has an 8 years old son from previous wedding). I dont have many people to speak heart-to-heart to as sometimes I cannot find the correct word to express myself in French, my husband is the only one who speaks English in his family. However, he's just not that guy I dated anymore. We used to talk until morning talking about anything, he's the one who wrote 5pages of letters for my parents, stubbornly using Google translate and my help so that he can wrote it in our native language. Now? Now when I try to talk to him about our relationship, he walks away or change the subject. questions like "are we equal in this relationship?" or "I feel lonely" or "I need you to discuss this with me..." got no answer, sometimes he left or go to sleep. If I said I dont want to come to his parents house he gets very upset (it's 3,5hours away and he doesnt like being spoken to when he drives and we stay in the parents house and he rarely wants to go out. The parents are great and very nice, but I cant deny that i still have that newly-weds thing and want some private time alone every now and then and I dont like to stay idle for too long); but when I told him that my dad is on the phone and wants to speak with him, he said "No", he doesnt tr to make any contact at all with my family. He very rarely helps me around the house also. I can handle all those if if I have him to talk to, but one time I pushed to get an answer from only resulting him throwing all my clothes, asked me to go back to my country and he hit me too, all the while saying that it's over. Even after that, I have to do like he does, act like nothing happened. We continue our live, no "I'm sorry", no "let's talk about this", nothing. It's not the first time or the last time he said it's over and yesterday I said "if that's what you want then make it so, that way I can go back to my country with clear status". As usual, I got no answer, he just stared at me and then he went to bed. That one was a continuationg of the conversation "bb, if I got an offer to work again in my country I think I would accept it, that way maybe I can find my selfrespect again and you would see me as equal" (which he ignored and went to sleep). I am so tired and I never knew that someone can feel so lonely in marriage. Sometime's I just want it to be over, but I know it will hurt my parents and myself as for me divorce is a huge failure and to get a divorce after only one year....feels like giving up. I tried many times to speak to him and never succeed and now I just really dont know what to do or think anymore.. please help

I'm sorry to say but it sounds like you should get out of there. You have tried everything and if he won't talk to you or agree to work on things then there is nothing left. You have not failed you have done your best but it takes two and you need to take care of yourself.