Feeling blocked

My husband and I were together for 8 yrs. We were both stubborn and had been hurt before and wouldnt surrender to the relationship. He cheated and we broke up for 4 yrs. However, throughout his relationship with this other woman, we just couldnt stay completely apart. Which eventually broke up his new relationship and we got back together. We got married a month ago. Now we are in the process of trying to pull our 2 houses together. But, the other woman still has stuff at his house. He will not tell her to take care of it. He wants to help her out. I feel like she is blocking our relationship and marriage. And, maybe I will find that just like with me...he wont be able to completely get her out of his life too? I dont know what to do? Lay down the law and say this is whats gonna happen, her stuff is out of here, or, continue to show him how much I love him and how happy we can be so he will be more motivated to move her stuff out? I cant move into his house with her stuff there. Help! Did I make a mistake marrying the love of my life?

lay down the law. This other method isn't working. You've seen first hand that he has a hard time letting go so tell him that he's either letting go of her or both of the women in his life will be gone. Showing him how much you love him will only go so far. You have to be strong now and if he's not willing to let go of her for you then maybe he doesn't love you as much as he should.