Should I visit him??

Hi I would like some advice especially from some men. My boyfriend and I split up 15 months ago. I live in the south and he lives on the East Coast now. It was the hardest breakup I've ever had. I'm in my early 40s he is in late 30s we were together almost 4 years. I met him as I was getting a divorce after 15 years of marriage. I knew I had finally met my soul mate. Not to go into a long story, but he had to move back east because of family. We broke up shortly after he got there. I had a horrible time with this and emotionally it got me down. Now I am very good, content and busy with my career. I have missed him tremendously, I'm still deeply in love with him. I sent him a message, to summarize he said he didn't know what to think but he still loves me and misses me a lot. I am planning to visit him but he does not know this. He hurt me by telling me to go on with my life 15 months ago so I believe I can handle it if he rejects me. He says he still loves me but is not sure about anything else..should I surprise visit him? No I would only be outside his workplace not his home. I need to see him. I'm prepared for "it's great to see you" or " you wasted your time" either or. I am going with a relative and we plan to sight see anyhow. My heart couldn't break more than it has in the past. Pics of us are still on his FB I just don't know. Help!!

Honestly I your prepared go for it maybe the only thing keepin you two soul mates apart is the distance but be sure your prepared for everything. A kid maybe or a wife he might even have a girlfriend or something but hey you never know I'm in a long distance relationship myself an its too many problems I no the problem is the distance an he does too so maybe one of u Gould move near if things work out we r planning to cause we are soul mates. Good luck

Thanks for your reply, yes I'm prepared for anything but I don't believe he is with anyone bc he said that he tries to find what he and I had with others but its not there. I've cried enough and I'm totally stronger now so if he rejects me there is nothing I can do, I tried.. But at that point it will completely be the last so we will see. I plan with a family member to enjoy my visit up there anyway.

Here's what I'd be asking myself...if he truly loves me, why didn't he invite me to move with him. You say you are "soul mates". Maybe he did invite you and you couldn't move. In my opinion, if you two truly love each other, you would be together. He wouldn't tell you to go on with your life. And you wouldn't be making excuses or justifying him. You know the truth, in your gut if nothing else. Don't make a fool of yourself by not listening. Why would you feel the need for a "surprise" visit? Seems to me a visit would have been planned before he left. You two would still be communicating on a daily basis. Are you needing confirmation that it's over? I could understand that. I don't know about this surprise thing. Seems uncomfortable or parts of the story are missing. His move for family may have been an excuse to keep from hurting you or he's not man enough to tell you the truth. I've always felt man or woman, you would fight for true love not just let it go. you guys aren't kids. you should know how rare and precious it is.