Hurt

ok i'm 19 and have been with somone for over 3 years since i was practickly a little girl. he is the first and only guy i have ever loved, and he's my best friend. he moved in with me, i love him on a level i do not understand. when he isnt there i miss him so much i cant breathe, the problem is he cheated on me a year an a half ago, i forgave him. we moved on, but then he chatted up another girl in a club the other day, i had no proof he would cheat on me so i got a friend to ring him and see if he would fall for it and he did. he said he didnt have a girlfriend, and wanted her to come an see him. my heart sank. when i confronted him, he didnt care. he was really nasty about it when i asked why he was ringing other girls he said so wot, we're over. i have his name tattoo'd on my back and i havnt been without this guy for more then a few days for the past 3 years. i know i need to let him go but i cant, i'm tormented by the thaught of him being with somone else. and even though my heart is ripped out all i want to do is hug him :( i have never felt pain like this in my life and i dont know what i can do, i just dont have the strength to let go.

you have to find the courage to let go and move on. you are a young girl with your whole life in front of you. why are you wasting time on someone who doesnt respect you and who wil have even less respect for you if you beg him to get back with you. you wil give him the green light to do whatever he wants if you let him back in your life. i still remember my first love and when he broke up with me i was a mess. i lost weight cried constantly and felt like my life had ended. it took me quite some time to get over him but i did. i know it doesnt help breaking up at this time of year (going through it myself after being with someone 9 years), but remember xmas is only a few days and then its the start of a new year. hold your head up high and make a new years resolution to move on and be happy. you deserve to be treated better then you have been and you will find someone, even if it takes a little time. enjoy being single and do all the things you havent been able to do while you were in this relationship. get your self respect back and grow stronger from this. good luck! you can do it!

hi ive the same problem(not with cheating) aint strong enough to say get out,and worried about seeing my partner go with another woman,as if i did id be scared of my reaction.Its hard and easy 4 other people to say youll get over it your young,when deep down we know we have to,but maybe we just dnt wanna get over them!! IF YOU LOVE SOMETHING SET IT FREE, IF IT COMES BACK TO U ITS YOURS, IF IT DOESNT IT WAS NEVER MEANT TO BE. good luck hunny ull do whats right. xx