Marriage

Ok there is problems in my marriage Lord I don't even know where to start but I need answers My husband says that I am to controlling but his past actions have led me to this behavior, yes i admit that i do check his phone and anything else that he may be hiding things from me, but I recently discovered him talking to another woman behind my back has far has I know there has been no physical actions, and found porn on his phone browser and yes I did confront him and her about this and well I have done some pretty crazy things has far downloading a keylogger on the pc but haven't done anything to his phone other enable find my phone which got busted for and caused an argument. I do love him and want this marriage to work and my question is how do I trust him again this has been the hardest part because I know if I don't stop the stuff I am doing it is gonna make him leave.

Hi I have been in a similar situation, I have checked my husbands phone constantly, as you said this causes more conflict I really feel for you, consider your options, 1 tell him you need space to think 2 ask for professional help maybe its too early for relate Or there could be underlying issues 3 talk He may be looking for esxapism, can you both find an activity, date night maybe Stress and societies pressures continue to make relationships more difficult Here to listen Angel cake