Car accident changed my bf... I'm almost giving up

Im in a 10 yr relationship and moved in with my bf 2 yrs ago.we had wonderful yrs together until a freak accident happened and changed everything. His neurosurgeon warned me then that he might show a reverse of his old behavior as a result of his front lobe injury.at first he was not showing any signs but now he has changed alot and his changes really hurt me.he is not the same man i loved before.he forgets to do our 12mn bday rituals,doesnt say i love u anymore unless i initiate.if i dont feel well and if im silent bec something is bothering me,he doesnt notice or care to ask.it pierces me when he can sleep peacefully without saying sorry leaving conflict unresolved.when we go out for dinner,he barely talks and just busy himself playing on his phone.i always do the iniative to ensure we talk or discuss anything or stroll around despite our busy working schedules.he has lost his sense of direction.no wedding plan,no ambition,flies from one job to another,etc.sex became one or nothing in a month.now i experienced being rejected but caught him certain times doing handjob instead infront of porno videos.i ve been patiently adjusting with him for 2 yrs now bec i still love him and longing that his old self will come back.ive never ever let him feel uncomfy despite his face scars and head turning artificial eyebec i dnt want him to feel any change between us.but all my efforts seemed not good enough.done talking to him,crying in front of him about all these things.ive never feel so unhappy,unloved and disregarded all my life.its a waste of time and emotional/financial investment if i turn back.pls i badly need ur advice.

You are absolutely entitled to being happy. Whether it is with this man or not may be another story. It does not mean you do not love him if you decide to leave. That has nothing to do with the accident he had. It has everything to do with the person he has become because of said accident. You need to take a step back and weigh out your options. Think to yourself: I have been in this 10 year relationship BUT am i happy ( no) am i loosing the person i once was? Is the person i first fell in love with still that same person. From your message the answer to those questions are clear. You have already devoted 10 years of your life to this man. And that is an amazing commitment. But you also have a lifelong commitment to yourself. You need to make yourself happy as well. Are you just staying with this man because you feel as though you abandoning him after his accident? If so, thats not the reasoning behind love. I have no doubts that you love this man. But perhaps he is simply not the man you originally fell in love with. Think to yourself also, do you see him reverting back to the man that once made you so happy and in love? Has the accident caused a PERMANENT change in the personality you so desire to have back? If so, i am truly sorry to say that perhaps you need to start considering to move on with your life. Do things that actually make you happy. If you are in a 10 year relationship... do you want to "waste" your time with a man that your not sure if you could marry. 10 years is a long time. the next step is marriage. Can you see yourself in a lifelong relationship with this man? Although he makes you unhappy. You cannot change him. You either need to accept the man he has become. Or move forward with your life. -Kat