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When is this lie gunna be the last

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I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We dont just love eachother, we are still "in love" with eachother like in the beginning of a relationship. We have so muchfun together, we laugh alot, we're silly, we can let our guard down with eachother and always be ourselves. Not only are we a couple but we're best friends too. Our friends and family t ell us how lucky we are to have this. We both have been married before when we were both very young (about 15 yrs ago). We were open with eachother about that, mistakes we have made, how we over came them and what we've learned from them. I told him all I ask is that he doesnt lie to me or keep things from me. And that I dont care what anything is, he can always tell me and I would mever get mad. I told him from the beginning I have a h hard time with trust because of my past relationship and please be patient on this. He promised he would and said he understands where Im coming from. Well, the first time I caught him in a lie was heart breaking. He took my wedding ring and pawned it. I noticed it was missing from my jewelry box. I asked him and he said he had no idea what I was talking about. We got in a huge fight and I told him I dont care just plz tell me the truth. He flat out lied to my face only to giv in an hour laterr. Ever since then I have caught him in so many lies. Mostly about money butvother important things too. We usually end up in a huge fight. All I say is please dont lie to me. Im always on yoyr side and will never get mad, just dont lie to me. Its gotten so bad that at tjis point I never know when hes telling the truth about anything or what hes keeping from me. It hurts so bad. I dont know what to do anymore. Please help.t relationship, please be patient with this and show me

When is this lie gunna be the last

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He's up to something. I don't know him so I don't want to pass judgement but my immediate reaction was drugs and gambling. The behavior fits. He will lie until whatever the real issue is gets confronted. Also if ya constantly give in or easily forgive promising to not get mad, what's to stop him from continuing? Be a little tough. Let him know its unacceptable and back it up

When is this lie gunna be the last

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I have been in the position that you are in. Once trust is gone you start looking harder and harder for the lies. It starts to take over your life and the more you find the more you're hurt and the less you trust him. It's a vicious cycle. It took a huge lie for me to leave the man I loved. He was having an entire other relationship, that's what it took so I understand how hard it is to leave. But you're lying to yourself more than he's lying to you. You're not happy, you're not in an open honest relationship. And maybe that's what you need to tell him and yourself and have a real conversation about your relationship. Do you want to be with a person who lies to you about money and other important things? How many chances does he deserve to make the same mistakes over and over again? When will you have had enough? Don't just think about these questions, tell him that you're thinking about them and really discuss it with him. Maybe you can make it work with him, I hope you can. But don't give him forever to keep hurting you. You deserve better!

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