Are my fears normal?

Is it possible for a touch of heaven to still be the wrong one? I have waited many years to meet “the one”. I am educated and refined. My requirements in a mate were very specific and fine-tuned having been through 3 long term relationships and several years of celibacy in between. I knew what I wanted – somewhat precisely, but in truth, did not believe I would find it. In fact, I had reached a point where I decided I would not find it and had settled into the notion of being single for the rest of my life. That’s when we met. He is 14 years my junior – which initially caused hesitation in me. But somehow he is perfect. My extended list of must haves and must not haves has been well and truly annihilated by him. He has ticked boxes I didn’t even dare include for fear of disappointment knowing no man on earth would tick them!! So what matters? Is it simply fear on my part that is questioning the value of minute missing parts? Fear of losing him, now that I have found him? I love being with him, love his touch, love the way he thinks. Every moment we are together is a blessing. Surely the fear of losing perfection is normal. Is it also normal to fear making a mistake and him leaving because of it? His only requirement of me is to never cheat on him. I am not a cheater – it is not something I do. I have been the recipient of cheating and know the pain. But I fear it happening all the same. Why? I am not that kind of person and there is no other man on the face of the earth I would rather be with, so why am I so consumed with this fear? I am terrified that a situation or event could be misconstrued to “seem” an act of infidelity. I get so hung up on it sometimes that I can’t sleep. Then I start questioning everything – is this really right? Is he really the one? He is not refined like I am. We are matched in so many other ways – does it matter that he has never used a fish knife and fork? I feel like I am going insane. Am I? Are these signs that this is not really the soul mate match I have waited so long for? Or is it perfectly normal to go through this kind of questioning doubt when you find something you want so bad and are simply afraid of losing it?

i think your fear is more on the fact that he is too good to be true, and that you feel vulnerable being with him because you want it so much that he be "the one" for you. well guess what, if you keep on thinking that you will lose him-- you will. Power of the mind. And your fear? will elevate everything else... from the way you act with him, to the things you talk about, to everything. so why are you so concerned about everything? if he is "the one"- and may i add-- the one meant for you-- no amount of fear, worry, anxiety, insecurity will undo that. he sounds like a dream come true for you. dont think about it too much and just live and love for the moment. savor every bit of the moment with him and sleep well. you will need all the energy being with him :)