Stray for sex

Happily married 35 years to older husband who tries every method to achieve and maintain an erection but it's not working...Anyone have safe sex outside of marriage and be happy? It does not sound like me BUT...

I can totally relate. Married for 33yrs. Husband had always had a very high sex drive and me not so much through all our child rearing yrs. Now the kids are gone, he is on BP med and high cholestrol meds that are causing lack of desire, trouble with erections and of course this is causing some issues for me. My sex drive increased and I was just thinking how wonderful our sex life could have been. I feel so unfullfilled. It is rare when I can orgasm anymore. I have to come quick or it aint happening. I lay in bed and cry so many nights now. And yes, like you, I admit the temptation is there. I am a younger wife also. In good shape, always have kept myself looking good. I have been checked out and hit on by other men so much but have never felt the need or want to stray. Now it is in my mind, how sad. How do you leave everything you have known for this long? If you stray and get caught it would be over. I still want a fullfilling sex life! The key word in your post is safe sex. How can you know and trust someone to be clean. Nowadays so many people are just having sex and the bugs are spreading like wildfires. That is one worry for me as well. My husband has been trying to please me as well. It just isn't working. I am left more times than not high and wet. He usually gets his orgasm, thats the sucky part. Its causing our once solid relationship to fail. I think if my husband would watch his diet better and exercise that would make all the difference in the world. He has tried but not been consistant at all. I guess not even a great sex life to be had is worth the effort anymore for him. He knows hes overweight and could possibly turn some of these issues around that are causing his ED but sex is just not as important for them at this age now. Good Luck to you. You are not the only one feeling this sadness in your life indeed.

Thanks \\\\\\\"Totally relate\\\\\\\". Try a garden bathtub, lots of planning: music, flowers, fragrance, champagne, even have romantic couples porn movies set in pretty places. Worked for us last night ;-) I have a vegan husband and he is also taking the bio-identical hormone pellets so we are trying all. Agree these empty nest days should be all about pleasing ourselves and each other!

the last writer mentioned bio ident hormones...geez.....your husband NEEDS testosterone and perhaps Viagra and you will be having sex in a month or two like you did not even 33 years ago...absolutely amazing...the right hormones will bring him back to being sexual all the time...he should try and perhaps you too. My wife gets pelleted again Sat and we cannot afford, BUT she is getting (300 for 3 months) because it has given us our youth again

Atleast your husbands are trying, mine seems to have totally given up trying too. Now I have reached a stage mentally where I just manage by myself. I do not even attempt to ask him to try. It feels sad and I do feel empty but I have learnt to work on those emotions such that it doesn't interfere with daily life. After all life doesn't consist of only sex. Just know that you are not alone!