Am I being unreasonable??

The man I am seeing has been divorced from his x for 2 yrs now. They are divorced but still going through material distribution process. He may have to giver her 80 grand. Few months ago he planned a 2 wk vacation for him and his son. The other night he tells me we need to discuss something and he said his x said if he takes her on vacation also she will sign off on all money. She has a boyfriend and a 2 yr old with that boyfriend. I told him she wants to go because she wants to get back with him and he said that would never happen because he loves me and his future is with me and if it will only cost 3 grand to take her then he will be more financially fit for our future. I got very upset and he said that it is nothing and I should trust him and nothing would happen between them. I just want to know what others think-men and woman. I can not imagaine going on vacation with my x unless I wanted to rekindle something and if she is willing to leave her boyfriend and little one for 2 wks and sign off on 80 grnad what does she think she will get-other than him again. I said I have every reason to feel the way I do. And she said that I can not go -I guess that in itself says what her intentions are. He said that if can have 2 wks of misery and save 80 grand it is worth it.

Tough place you are in. I sympathize. Major part of any relationship is trust. I know from experience how hard it can be to trust your partner to do the right thing. I cant find a reason to hypothesize why she would want to go on this vacation. However, I will say this, make sure what she says is in writing. If this woman is going to sign away the 80 g for a 2wk vacation, it should really be in writing. Other than that, I would trust your man. Sometimes trust is the hardest thing to give but it is also one of the things with the greatest reward. Do you believe without a doubt, that he will remain loyal to you? If so, let this happen. I would suggest that they get separate rooms. It would help to deter anything from happening if that is this womans plan.

I agree it should be in writing, and separate bedrooms. I understand the mans reason to save the 80 grand. her motives are obviouse, She wants him back. I would trust him. The truth is if he wanted her back he could do that. Get it in writing before they go