I don't want a divorce

my husband wants a divorce, but hasn't filed, I don't. I want to save my marriage and keep my husband. He is cheating on me. I have moved out of the house.

If you want to keep your husband you might want to consider of moving back in and try going to some kind of counseling. Talk to him about the problem you two are having and explain why you want to save the marriage (suppose it's the love you still have for him I hope). If you can stomach the fact the he's cheating more power to you and it only proves how much you love this man. But also understand that you can't make anyone love you, learn to love yourself and show him that you have respect for this marriage and you wanting to keep a fight for is out of the vows you two made an idiocy act due to that. I don't know how much you believe in God and how much you have faith. But ask for his guidance and support, ask him to grant you strength to through the storm you about to encounter and touch his heart to see the fruit of what's the two of you have started. And if all fails, let him go but know one thing...you did the best you could and you shouldn't have any regrets if it ever came to that. Hold your head up high coz you know you're not a loser here. You have not lost anything specially you're dignity and respect. Remember he's the one cheating not you!

take him for coun

When you moved out that gave him the space and availability to be with other women at your place. At least while you were in the house your presence was known and to the women or woman he is cheating with your place was there, not hers. You made that house a home, good or bad, the memories in each one of those rooms involved you. Mochi is right, as women, it's damn hard stomaching the fact that your man is stepping out on you. You don't sleep, eat, can't focus and your heart feels like someone stomped on it. Find out on what grounds he wants this divorce. If its to leave you for someone else, let him go and trust that the same thing he did to you he will do to this other woman and she deserves that pain! If its something that can be fixed, meet him half way. Counseling is a must, not negotiable. If you move back in, anything you think he may have slept with someone else on.... Replace! Mattress, sofa , rug, etc. so the old stuff is not distracting you from a new start. Not knowing what happened in that house while you were gone will hold you back from healing. If you love him, forgive but don't forget. Trust is something he should earn back gradually. I hope the best for you, you deserve better. Hugs!