My fella the bisexual transvestite

My partner aged 50 confessed he likes to wear womens clothes. That came as a bit of a shock as weve been together 15 years!!The even bigger shock is that when he was supposedly going to the gym, he was going to transvestite venues. I kind of accepted it after all whats a few clothes and if it made him happy.It now transpires that he goes to gay saunas/venues as a tv looking for sex with men who like transvestites. He also trawls the Internet and arranges liasons at mens houses where my partner is the tv again and they have sex.He wears everything including make up and wigHe gets checked at the G.U.M clirnic every 6 months even though he says condoms are always used. Ive sat back and let him get on with it hoping it was a passing phase but its getting worse. He now goes out two nights a week either as a tv for sex or as a bi man.Also he meets men who he does BDSM With and they tie him up etc.He then expects me to have sex with him and though I did initially, he told me he gives men oral sex but not to completion and has passionately kissed men.Im starting to be repulsed by all this and wont let him touch me.He says if I love him I shouldn't have a problem and he wont stop because it is who he is!!!So now im wondering if I should leave him. Ive aked him to treat me more like a woman woo me etc as he just thinks we can jump into bed an that I can participate. He says why do I need treating differently and I must be very needy to want woo--ing and more affection and attention. So what do I do???Do I stay or go?My liifestyle will change for the worse an I do care for him but my love is fading..is all what hes doing a passing phase even though he's 50.??.He had a very restrictive childhood and had no friends. His mother was and still is very controlling.He changes completely infront of her...and I wonder probably nievely if his controlled life has anything to do with how he conducts his lifeAny advice will be gratefully reviewed. .sorry this was so long.

i am married as well but its only been about a year; so here's what i think... in my opinion if my husband did anything with any one (woman or man) i would dump him to the curb. he used to have a very bad porn addition that i didn't know about even after we got married because he kept it a secret. i told him i thought it was disgusting and even though he didn't cheat on me, deep down inside it felt like did. so when he told me the same thing "that it was a part of him" i told him he had to change or else its over. in my point of view if my husband was doing things like what your husband was doing i would consider it cheating and find someone new. i know its difficult to find someone new after being with them for 15 years and you may have children. i see 3 options: except him the way he is or tell him to find some other interest and if your fine with him dressing up let him but if he's going out to look for anything sexual with men i'd tell him to stop, other wise i would leave. if he feels like he wants to go out and do something exciting tell him to go to a club or something WITH YOU.