boyfreind wants freedom I want security

Hi there, I am wondering if anyone's had experience of this situation or somthing similar.I have been dating a guy who right from the start mentioned that he was curious about open relationships.I was a whole lot less stressed at the time & 'In love' so I didn't really think alot about it. He was befreinding 'another lady' who was having problems with her husband..& I think they we're getting to know each other though not got into a relationship as she was still married.Any how I met him quiet quickly & he asked if I'd like to date him & I said ok.He informed the rather fragile 'another lady' who I know was upset as she came round to see him when I was at his house..He tried to say to her he wanted to still be friends! as she went off in UPSET.There was also a 'in a shared relationship' on his facebook from an even previous reltionship...though he said he just put that on there because he argued with his insecure X! So yea it's sort of up to me that I have got involved with hin...I can here you saying.Unfortunately in a way he has got under my skin & I fell for him(I say that as I am trying to have a break as now) He has been interested in Osho(Bagwann) ideas on love & freedom.He tells me he wants to be honest & he wants to be able to express himself & be free.He said the other day I want to be able to tell you when I fin another woman attractive...Yea sounds straight forward but it makes me insecure & angry.I see it as not considering my feelings.I we all went around saying what evers on our mind people would get hurt.Its enough to know (that he' as he's told me himself 'a hot blooded male' So this has got worse & worse for me all the talking it had the opposit effect of me leaving him.I was fed up when I noticed him staring at other women & some of them alot.He commented on one woman saying I reaaly like the way she dresses...& yea she was an attractive woman.Thing was we were camped facing her caravan & she was constantly in our site when we sat in the front of our van.I wanted to move & he said no.At that point I wanted to dump him.So you can say I'm just jealous...but I just don't feel that my feelings are cared about..What is love if you don't care about someone's feelings.It's just got so big this issue.I was getting clingy ,as we live apart & I don't know that many people in his hometown I do rely on him.Theres part of me that thinks we are basicaly not a good match...though thers something about him I am very fond of.He was stuckin a loveless marriage & also an unhappy childhood with his dad having another woman.

you both want different things,if you can work this out through coun its great otherwise just say quit, be friends