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Breakup occurred but I still think there is love

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I met a beautiful girl through my last year of highschool in January of this year. Our relationship took some toil but we were one strong relationship until until suprisingly she ended up calling it off about a week ago. I might be young but the relationships I have been in before I never really was that concerned about the breakup and understood why. But this relationship was a great relationship and even she has admitted it and we had such a blast and a chemistry together. When we first started dating we both didn't know that each of us had the likings for each other and her best friend ended up hooking us up due to shyness mostly on her part lol. We definantly had the eyes for each other. Our months of dating we laughed till our sides hurt and we would hardly fight. Our likings for each other grew immensely and our connection and or sex was all very great. We both weren't really looking for a relationship at all but we just couldn't resist each other. It felt very natural. When we did argue and fight it was at times a little off the edge we were stressed out with our home lives and we tried to see each other as much as possible because we didn't that often. Her being a Leo and I a Virgo might help to know and where this might have its cons .. we were dynamic and our love just seemed .. volcanic at times. Volcanic in a good way though there was passion and when wed argue a lot of times her personal issues she was dealing with seemed to bring her down a lot. She told me numerous times that she is going through a lot but she doesn't want our relationship to be at stake. She said we should always fight for what we have and that she loved being with me .. that she loved what we have and she's just so happy its with me. As far as " I love you" goes we took awhile to say that .. we wanted to. keep our heads on straight and not just jump too far too quick. We did end up saying that we did .. she did first and I ended up saying that I really want to say it but I just don't want to say it too soon .. we eventually said it about a month back. I mean it .. and so did she .. I still do and I fully mean It . I lo.ved her as a person and I loved her spirit and personality. One thing she is involved in is sobriety .. that's an extremely private matter for her and I bring it up only to help you understand her better. She did experience using and alcohal about a year and a half. Before. She does not seem like it AT ALL . I mind you she is full of life and has a brightness about her that would make you not to be able to believe she experienced that. This is something though that her and I. Talked about in her relationship she would go to meetings .. well still does and she has her whole life on track. But as far as emotionally she has told me she goes through a lot of things but she always keeps a smile on her face just sometimes a temper comes out when we fight and argue. She seemed happy and she now says she isn't anymore .. one big thing I do recall that plays a much bigger impact than I think it does is that the last time her and I went camping in Ocean Shores .. we had a long talk by the campfire all night long. And during this week and whole period in gerneral she was going through a lot in her life. She let me know that this point of year brings back a lot of sad memories and she has to cope with them. She walked the beach by herself and I should have given her more space than I did. She needed just to be alone and to think. She let me know that later at the campfire why she's been distant. And told me that that's the reason why she's pushing me away .. its not that she doesn't want me around she just is going through a lot which I wouldn't understand. She told me that going through this that she doesn't want to have us break up due to this stress and that its her that she's going through.. its not us. But throughout this night I really wanted her to feel comfortable in opening up to me about what she was struggling with .. and I was very happy that she did do that there was a lot of tears and that night I though would bring us closer together than ever. Which it did .. and she apologized for ruining our weekend together and the time we could have spent with each other and our friends .. and we seemed to work it out but after the camping trip we ironed out some stuff and she really put an effort out in making sure we were solid as a couple. Over texting we talked about that weekend and I tried to say that her thoughts and what she is going through is really tough .. but what I ended up saying is her thoughts are "horrendeous" .. bad choice of words .. because even though she didn't have low self esteem she was hit very hard by it and said that she knew they were terrible and how could I throw everything that she pored her thoughts out and I throw them right back in her face? She felt that I didn't repsect her openeing up to me and I will admit that I was a little not so caring the way I came across and handled the whole thing. This did hurt her and during a few disputes and she ended up bringing that up .. twice and I apologized but not with sincerity. I did mean it though. And after this camping trip we seemd the same we really did .. but I could tell that we weren't seeing each other in person as much just texting and calling and we conversed well though. Out of the blue though this last week she did tell me that she's not happy and that she doesn't want t continue it after 2 days of not talking .. we always seemed to reslove things and really worked together as a team great and I expected for us to be able to work it out but she does not want to. She said that there is something there between us but not hat she thought. She said that she has been thinking about it the past few weeks and she just feels that we don't connect anymore. I don't know if its because she's going through tough times and she couldn't hanlde being in a relationship at the same time .. but what I do think is that we muatually wounded each other that night camping. And a lot of touchy subjects were unresolved .. what I think happened is that perhaps the love and feelings wre still there its just that when there's something there that you hold against each other .. it rubs over what you have and damages your connection to feel intimate again. She did say that there are things that she has tried to let go but just can't .. and I think that played a big factor in it . I want to be with her and I am hoping when we meet up we can resolve things but you cannot force love or feelings back on her end . I just feel that she pushed me away because she is wounded and feels that I don't care anymore and that I she feel also that she isn't a good girlfriend and that she treats me bad .. due to her losing it that night. I am doing the no contact rule starting now .. I just would like some advice on leo women .. or if there is some hope in regaining a connection together once again

Breakup occurred but I still think there is love

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This is such a sad story. But as a women I think you need to give her time. It seems to me that she has a lot of problems that she needs to sort out or learn to cope with. All you can do now is give her support. Let her know you are there if she ever wants to talk but keep your distance. Just till she gives you a sigh to come closer. Be there because she is going to need someone how loves her.

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