trust issues or mid life crisis

I met my ex husband on Facebook again 8 months ago its been twenty eight years since we divorced he has been single 8 years no women in his life I had a breakup 3 months prior well he is online liking websites of young girls in bra and panties and sexy poses most are under 25 and in Facebook friends girls from other countries where he may be there only friend on list he doesn't talk to them but I have had 4 friends call me and tell me they have seen content an felt its not right we discussed fought and I have given in I checked his phone 1 nite he had been talking to ex wife on Facebook and hid conversation in settings lied tom e about her contacting.him first he caught me on his phone other night now he has put lock out with password on phone days he needs privacy not doing anything wrong I haven't let him know and things are OK but it still bothers me he says he wants her to know bow happy he is that she didn't kill him when she left him for another MaN he's rubbing her face in it not the way I would do it I'm 48 he's 50 I don't like him looking at young ones makes me feel not good enough which I told him he says he will nit Lea e me or cheat

I'm sorry you had to get a whiff of that mid life crisis mess but that's exactly right! Men panic when they reach a certain age. Their erections are fewer, hairless,stamina goes down, lots of things off balance, so their minds flip back to when they were younger, able to perform and attract. This age group knows that in 10 more yrs from now, all that I said about their changes get worse! Unlike women who take menopause by the horns, these guys take to porn, looking at images that excite them and the use of their imaginations get juvenile! Don't panic, don't sweat it, let his ass look because trust me if he could get with one of those young girls the embarrassment of trying to keep up with them would make him stop. Men have always been peeping toms, looking under skirts, boob shots, cleavage dips etc, just natural perverts with fantasies that they can not act on. Now that you know what's behind all his curtains, don't stress yourself out about it, find your own joys. Find your own eye candy, doesn't have to be younger men etc, it can be things and places you always wanted to see and go to. Fix his ass good by posting a bunch of romantic places and post, "ahhhh can't wait baby" ... He will wonder who you are going with and then think, your life is better than his while he is going back to juvenile gauking,,, you are in a happier place 28 yrs later and he is not! Hugs!!!!

Thanks for the response I knew the answer in the back of my mind but pre menopause emotions got in the way the stress was wearing me out we have talked since and he has taken lock off phone I feel better and have concentrates on being light and fun and its been wonderful