Confused about wether or not to break up my relationship

Well l've been in a 2 year relationship that has had its ups and downs. We have a 9 month old son together which also makes my decision more difficult. I like my boyfriend, he's a hard worker. In reality i can't tell you much about him because we don't really talk that much. He's private and a little bit old fashioned. Our problems are that we are totally different people with different views of the world, he's not a people person and doesn't get along with my family, I love my family but i see at times why he doesn't get along with them, they are a bit over dramatic and most of them are single. I stay with him because he takes care of me and my son, I want to be a better person and i'd like to think he is helping me become more "mature". but that's just not me, i want to be mature and responsible for my son but i am 22 years old, i didn't get to enjoy being a young adult. Right now i'm just a house mom that isn't allowed to go to real college or doesnt have a car because he doesn't trust me, I don't have many friends or go out much for the same trust issues. I just wanted some advice from someone that isn't family and knows my whole past.... i feel guilty leaving him, he's a nice person and wants to have a good life too but i think he doesn't know what he wants either...

He sounds like he has some control issues. Telling you that you shouldn't get to have a car or go to college is a huge red flag. Another huge red flag is not being able to go out or have friends. Look up the Yahoo article 10 Signs You're in a Manipulative Relationship. I think this might help you understand a lot - I know you'll be able to pick out some of these as being prevalent in your relationship. He might not curse at you and call you names, come home on time, and provide for your child, but you know that something is missing. To me, that something is his inability to treat you like an equal. He wants to keep you somewhat subordinate because he's more comfortable that way, but it's not love - it's all about you being a toy in his universe, in a way. It sounds kinda sick, but that's probably something he upholds from his old fashioned (may I please say backwards) values. What is real love is when two people can brilliantly, beautifully and autonomously be themselves and contribute the best of what they have to offer to each others lives. He's holding out on you, you might say. If you want out of the relationship, make sure you have somewhere to go while you gain some more self-sufficiency and can think for yourself. He could want you back, and you don't want to crumble under the pressure of not being able to provide for yourself, therefore choosing to go back to him. If you aren't sure about your options and feel okay with it, you could even work towards independence while living with him, but that might not work for you. where my advice comes from: I'm a single mom and have found myself in a similar situation multiple times, so I've learned more about what and what not to do... Hoping this helps.