An Intervention for my loving family

This is going to be a long post. There's a good reason why. And before anyone reads this, this is to my family, and I only say these things out of love towards my family and because I'm showing that I care. I love my family with every ounce of my heart, and I love both my parents no matter what. They could do the worst things in the world to me and I'd still love them. But we have a problem. A problem that doesn't just affect me, but it affects all of us in our family. Mom, Dad, if you've been to this site and you're reading this, please know that this is from your loving son, and I'm only saying this because I love you both. I don't mean anything angry in this intervention towards you guys. This is coming from your son. We need to be able to get through this. I have known for the seventeen years I've been alive that every family eventually fights about something, and that is not uncommon. But when a family fights about minor things that don't matter, that's when the green flag turns red. If it weren't for the volatile condition of Aspergers that I suffer from I'd be able to stay in the living room for at least 10 minutes while the fire roars on, but unfortunately this disability is something I have to live with. We are all human beings created by God and we are not perfect. Mom, you mean everything in the world to me, and I do not know how I would be able to live without you around. If it had not been for you holding me close in a thunderstorm when I was nothing more than a bundle of joy, plugging in a night light when I was only a little child, and helping me through all those times I needed help the most, I would probably not be here to type this. It is an undoubtful truth that through all those times, you and dad have fought about many things, and that is normal, as I said before, because families fight sometimes. I realize that you have a back problem and your body is limited in many ways, and you can't help that. I only wish that Dad would look at that fact and at least learn to deal with that. You may have been mad at him before, you may have even said you hate his guts (if you have then I don't know when). But that doesn't mean he doesn't feel the same way. He suffers the same mental disability I do but that does not make him any less human. We all love you, Mom, no matter what we say about you. That is a sealed fact and it will never change. Dad, your are the backbone to my life and if you hadn't been there to teach me important things about life, if you had never been there to discipline me, if you had never been there to laugh and joke around with me, life would mean nothing to me. If I didn't have a father like you, I'd probably be staring out the cold steel bars of a jail cell from doing something wrong. I would have never known right from wrong if you hadn't been around. And as I said before I know mom suffers from a back problem and she can't do much. That doesn't mean that nothing is possible with her. She's still able to get up and wash dishes, cook us dinner so we don't starve and clean up the living room so we don't trip and break something, isn't she? That may be hard to look at, but you still need to look past the flaws in her and look at her strengths. She's able to tell you she loves you because she cares about you. She's able to make jokes with you because she loves you. She's able to get you the things you both want and need because she's showing you she loves you. If she didn't do any of those things, don't you think she wouldn't care about you? And Dad, I'm not calling you out on anything and I don't mean anything towards you by saying these things. I am telling you these things though, because we all need to know what's wrong with our family and how I know we can cure the dysfunction. I am here with you two, my parents, because God has seen your dysfunction and has made me the lightning rod that absorbs the tension. God has given you the gift of a seventeen year old boy who wants nothing more than to see HIS family live on as a generation! God sees your problems, Dad, every day! I pray every night before I go to bed that He takes away the tension, that He takes away the anger, that He takes away the stress and inability to cope with the struggles of life! I know those struggles, I've been there, and I've seen them. I am smart and intelligent enough to know what they feel like and how to solve these problems! It's time that you, me, Mom, and our little Sophia faced the TRUTH! We are a dysfunctional family! I'm sick of doubting that fact! I'm sick of saying that I don't think we are! I'm facing the truth, here and now, that we all have a problem, you, me, mom, and little Sophia! But you know what we can do?! We can solve this problem! We can if we just look past the tension, the anger, the stress, and the complication! We may be a family that fights, and we may be a family that turns our backs at each other, but you know what?! If I didn't have my God-given bible that I've learned from, I would have never known that these problems are normal and they can be SOLVED! There is just one thing that we all have to do, AS A FAMILY! We have to work together, all four of us, grab this dysfunction by the skinny throat, crush it to oblivion and shove it out of the way! AS A FAMILY! I swear my life on it, with God as my witness, by hell or high water, if no one else will do something about it, I WILL SEE TO IT, that this fire that burns in the four of us that calls itself the spirit of dysfunction will be reduced to nothing more than simmering ash! We are a family that loves each other, we are a family that defends each other, and we CAN NOT let the smallest things like a messy living room turn us into a pack of feral wolves! To fight about an unsettled house is to debate the nature of the Sun! AND I KNOW THAT AS A CHRISTIAN! I have read the Bible before, and there is ONE PASSAGE in the Bible I will NEVER FORGET. Phillipians 4:13 "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." I remember that passage as well as the back of my hand! And that applies to ALL OF US AS A FAMILY! Mom, Dad, let's make ourselves a loving family again! Let's end the fighting that goes on in our household. Let us LIVE again. Please. I'm asking as your SON! I'm asking, can we please love each other as a family again? Isn't that what families do? Love each other? Let's stop fighting about the little things in life. Let's save the fighting for something SERIOUS. Let's be a family again. A real family, that cares, a real family, that knows love. A real family, that knows what caring means. A family. I love you, Mom and Dad. With every single ounce of my heart. I will never hate you, even if I say it to your faces. I will never truly hate you. Ever.

you need to telk them this,how you feel about the fighting.Yes people can change and improve,if a little counseilling is given these minor problems can go,goodluck

I don't know if this applies, but I thought I'd mention it. I have a friend who is a high-school chaplain (I noticed you mention the Bible, so I hope it's okay that I use a religious anecdote) and he does a lot of family counselling. A lot of high-school seniors and juniors who just cannot stop fighting with their families. One thing he tells his families is that when young birds are ready to leave the nest, they constantly battle the parents. Either they get to leave, or they kill each other! I guess the point is that it's pretty normal for this to happen. You're getting to the point where you're ready, on some level, to make your own way. Even if you're not planning on moving out yet, you're becoming your own person. The fighting that results isn't necessarily bad. More like...growing pains? And there's nothing wrong with that!

@JAEL Actually, that's the thing. My family has grown so attached to me (I've helped them out of a lot of problems that they alone couldn't fix themselves) that without me around, they're practically helpless. I sort of *can't* leave my parents because of two things: for one, they'd be heartbroken without me around, and for another, they'd fall into such deep depression that not even the sun shining out the window or a lovable dog could cheer them up. I'm sort of the spine of the family. I made a pledge to my parents that I would NEVER leave them and NEVER move out because I'm basically what keeps this family alive and kicking. I see your point though and I'm not disagreeing with you.