Friendship ruined??

I just need some advice on this situation.. I don’t know if I am in the wrong or not so please help me out. So here is the story: I became friends with this guy in about December of last year. Our friendship kicked off fast and instant connection. He has been family friends with some of my relatives forever so I have always known him. But we started hanging out and he began to like me as more than a friend. I always stated that I didn’t want to start anything cause I was about to leave the country for 7 months and I didn’t want to have to worry about a relationship back here. You know? But of course my family pushed it and pushed it and told him that I liked him so much and I was only saying that cause I didn’t want to admit how much I liked him.. which wasn’t true because I never said anything to them. I liked him as a friend but he wasn’t that guy I would ever date and if I had to question if I liked him or not.. then clearly the feelings weren’t there. He would make comments like calling me dear and calling my mom mother in law and my brother his bro. And I always told him no they are mine and no don’t call me that but he kept on because he thought I thought it was funny. I am that kind of person that cares too much about everyone elses feelings so of course I probably wasn’t stern about it as I look back at the situation. I then ended up spending lots of time at his place and even stayed there BUT I stayed in the spare room. Never ever slept in his bed with him and whenever he tried to kiss me I pulled away and said no. But he still pushed at being in a relationship like trying to hold my hand and cuddle up to me. Then when it came time for me to leave, he let me leave my things and my car at his house. He is a single guy with a big house so he had the room and my parents were most likely moving so he didn’t mind and I figured it wasn’t a big deal or a sign as to me coming back to be in a relationship with him. I always told him what happens, happens. No guarantees. He then drove me to the airport with my mom and brother and at the hotel, he insisted on sleeping in the same bed as me.. even though I said no but he didn’t care what I said. As I look back at it now, I should have been more firm and said what I wanted not cared about making him happy. But I think I was so confused with my feelings because I had him pushing it and all my family pushing for us to be in relationship so part of me was thinking I liked him but then I also questioned. So I was just very confused and acted in ways that maybe showed him different things? You know? But then at the same time, I did push him away for kisses and said that I am gonna do what I want and if we are meant to be, we will be. So I think he just took in what he wanted. So Then I left for 6 and a half months and at first I contacted him just like I contacted everyone else but as the weeks went on, I contacted everyone less and less. The internet was expensive and I became busy with making friends and having fun. So I didn’t just loss contact with him but everyone besides my mom and brother and dad and step dad. Those 4 I will always contact as much as I can. And then when we did email, he would tell me things that I already knew and just sometimes pointless messages so I didn’t always know how to reply to him. Now, fast forward to when I get home. I came home about a month and a bit ago and I honestly haven’t made time to hang out with anyone. I have just been so busy with working at my daycare and they had some issues so of course instead of being part time, I became full time and worked until 630 every night. I also had a few staff meetings and it just became very stressful. So by 630, all I want to do is go home, eat and veg out. I am home for what is called a vacation from my job but I am that person that just needs to work and keep busy. But I became busier than what I wanted and with that visiting people was on a back burner until I was officially done work. Everyone in my family understood this and if I had time I would go see them. Which they were all okay with cause they understand I am not just here to be with them 24/7. So now, yesterday this guy is texting me and it goes fine then all of a sudden hes like well whenever you want to get your things just let me know. So I told him okay but if needed can I keep my things there and of course hes like well if things didn’t change between us I wouldn’t mind but I don’t know what happened to our friendship. I tried to explain how busy I have been and how I just want some me and relax time as well and how stressful the situation at the daycare has been. But he just went “well I had some stressful, bad days but when I came home you were there. I miss those days” so he is going back to months ago and I kept trying to explain that its not that I don’t want to hang out with him but I am not gonna drop everything just to keep him happy and in his time frame. So basically, I have to move my things out but I cant do it when he isn’t home cause he wants to be there cause it might be the only time he gets to see me. Maybe I sound like a bitch but then I look back at the texts and he is just whining about himself and how I haven’t hung out with him. He isn’t just stopping to think, hey she hasn’t seen anyone. But I think he expected me to come home and everything be the same again. He then went to say, well I don’t do well with change and I just didn’t think you’d change this much. So all in all.. am I in the wrong? I know I haven’t made efforts to hang out with him BUT its 100% not personal, its with everyone, not just him. He is not getting that. Any advice or just your thoughts on this situation would be awesome. I feel like a horrible person now because I didn't meet his timeframe or his needs.

This is not your fault. He never contacted you asking to hangout, right? He is just being selfish it seems like.

He asked me once to hang out but it was my first weekend home and I honestly just wanted to do laundry and clean up the mess I left troughout the house and to veg alone haha after 7 months away, alone time is very nice! But no one gets that. He then was like ohh I feel like I have a disease or something.. All cause i didn't wanna hang out at that very moment.

I think he is sounds very strange and stop bloody worrying about hurting others feelings, this is your life honey u have been honest with him and if he can't deal with that .. Tuff.. Get your stuff out of his and find so somewhere else to store it :) and good luck and be happy x

I know I know. I really need to worry about what makes me happy first before everyone else. Not my strong suit though. Boo

Yeah, I have trouble saying no to people and disappointing them to, but I've noticed that in the end, it puts soo much stress on you trying to keep everyone around you happy then with all that stress you're not happy. It's good to say no sometimes. You can't always please everyone and pleasing yourself needs to come first. You never see this guy anyways so it won't be too hard for you to just get your things and be done with it.