Lost between 2 loves

I have been living with a guy for the past 8yrs. I have a 17yr old son and now a 6 month old baby (not his).Things have been both good and bad between us. His 5yrs my junior. We have spoken about marriage and kids, however his major problem is keeping a job. In the beginning I loved him with all my heart and soul, but now I despise him for ruining what could have been a wonderful life together, because of the financial strain he put on my.Long story short he got a job working overseas for 8 months. During this time I met someone and he made me feel great. After living with a man who cant afford to take you out, doesn't have a car or even spoil you with flowers. It was so amazing and I fell in love with him. He also has 2 small kids and is not really financially stable, but he at least knows what responsibly is and is working hard to make a better life for him and his kids. During our time together I fell pregnant. Although my bf and I of 8yrs tried for 2 yrs to fall pregnant and nothing. My son is now 6 months old, the father wants us to be together, but he too has turned his back on me and my boys a few times. My current bf loves the baby and accepts both my boys, but I don't love him anymore. Well I love him I always will, I am just NOT inlove with him anymore. I need to make a choice who do I choose. The man I don't love who has a commitment issue with jobs or the man I love but has a commitment issue with me. My heart is say bf number 2m but my head is saying to forget both and start to make myself happy. Please help as I am so lost between these to loves

do what your heart says,life is tough without love and money.Be patient you might find someone having both things to offer