Maybe too soon?

"Pete" and I have been together six months. We haven't argued, fought, or even had a disagreement the whole time. He has told me on numerous occasions that he wants to put a ring only finger one day so that the whole world will know he is the luckiest man alive. He is sweet, romantic, has his priorities in order, caring, hardworking. We've discussed marriage and children on his terms. I know his secrets, and those of his family, and he knows mine. We have never hidden anything from one another. I am confident when I say I love this man. However, he wants to wait FIVE YEARS before we move further into our relationship and then another five years before we discuss having children. I'm 23 now, I've been married and divorced. I know many still see me as a baby but you must understand that I had to be very mature at a very young age. With all my heart, I can honestly say I want nothing more than to marry and raise a family, but I don't want to be forty having my first child. Does anyone have any advice on how to convince him of this? I've tried before but somehow I always manage to say the wrong thing.

Hi there - I think you need to realise how lucky you are firstly to be so happy with someone. Does Pete have children already? Do you have children already? Have you tried to compromise with him? Do you have your own career already and does he?

Believe me, I thank God everyday that He put someone so amazing in my life. Pete doesn't have kids though he's divorced as well. And I don't have kids. I've always wanted children. I brought it up to him, trying to edge into a compromise with him, but he just clammed up so I dropped it. I'm torn between telling him that I want to seriously consider children in our future (before ten years) and just accepting things as they are.

I think you and "Pete" need to have a heart to heart talk. If "Pete is so amazing then why wont he be honest with you about when or if he wants to have kids. I think you and him really need to have a serious chat, before you both do something you will regret later.

I believe he is being honest when he says he wants kids, but I think he isn't willing to compromise on the time needed. I don't want to push him, but it's a subject that very near to my heart. Last time I tried talking to him about it, I ended up crying while trying to make him understand how important it is to me.