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I was diagnosed with hiv a few months ago. I was pregnant at the tym. I told my bf n he was supportive until i pushed him toget tested. After he found out he was negative, he started being impatient and throwing tentrums about everything. It took me asking for space for him to tell me that he is struggling to deal/accept my hiv status. He says he loves me but tired of pretending he's ok with my status. He moved out and told me to try and find happiness with someone else coz he doesnt think he'll ever get past this. His parents keep telling me to give him time and that he will come around. Im really not sure whether to listen to him and move on or his parents. Im also struggling alone with our 3 month old son, work and all this drama. Its our first child

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First off Zain, thank you for your openness. Second, I'm sorry to hear about your diagnoses. Life isn't over and you still have so much to live for! You have a lot on your plate, you have a two lives to worry about. Your child comes first. Making sure that your child is fed and sheltered is your number one priority. Do you have a support system? Where is your family or close friends? You need a strong support system to help you get through this tough time. You also need to remind him that you didn't create this child on your own, and even if he doesn't want a relationship with you he needs to be there for your son. His family also needs to remind him of his responsibilities. Remember you love your son more than HIM; and your focus is on the care and upbringing of him! Don't give up! Fight! He needs to be an adult and grow up- he needs to be a father to his son first. Try your best to reduce your stress and take care of your health.

Help!!!!!

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First off Zain, thank you for your openness. Second, I'm sorry to hear about your diagnoses. Life isn't over and you still have so much to live for! You have a lot on your plate, you have a two lives to worry about. Your child comes first. Making sure that your child is fed and sheltered is your number one priority. Do you have a support system? Where is your family or close friends? You need a strong support system to help you get through this tough time. You also need to remind him that you didn't create this child on your own, and even if he doesn't want a relationship with you he needs to be there for your son. His family also needs to remind him of his responsibilities. Remember you love your son more than HIM; and your focus is on the care and upbringing of him! Don't give up! Fight! He needs to be an adult and grow up- he needs to be a father to his son first. Try your best to reduce your stress and take care of your health.

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