Not sure about this anymore

We've been dating for almost 3 years now. One of the first things he told me was that he used to like tall blondes (really? who says that?). I'm a short brunette :-P. Anyway, that was about 2 years ago and he now denies ever saying it and that he doesn't remember it. Now, I see him constantly looking at blonde women, young and older. Tall and short. Practically breaks his neck to get a glimpse of the rest of their body as well. It's embarrassing and I feel like I can't even go out in public with him anymore. Also, about a year and a half ago, he started adding these super hot chicks on facebook. I confronted him about it and told him he made me feel like the biggest piece of shit ever. He did delete them but why would he do it in the first place?? He's 50!! He's always saying how much he loves me and could never be without me and blah blah blah, I don't even believe him really. I know for a fact that I don't feel the same anymore. He's also going through a divorce which is taking forever!!! I'm ready to walk. Actually I've tried about 3 times and he always seems to talk me into staying. I did really care and love him and was touchy feely but now, I barely touch him at all. It's like I just can't.

You have seen all the signs of a cheater - why don't you believe it? "I love you" is an easy thing to say and guys know how it really makes women weak at the knees and pliable to their will. Don't allow this man to keep stealing your self-esteem while he runs around doing just what he wants. Don't get sucked into his lies anymore. Actions speak louder than words. Get out fast and stop wasting the time you could be spending on finding a more loyal, committed - and mature (50 is just a physical age and not his true emotional age of about 16) - man.

That\'s just it. He keeps saying how committed he is to me but it\'s so hard to believe him. Parts of me do and parts of me don\'t. We don\'t live together and at one point I really really wanted to but now I\'m not so sure. He ex is crazy to top things off!! Its like he gets really attached to someone and won\'t let go. Did the same with the girl before me. But she got out. Not his ex-wife. I admit I do treat him like crap at times but I just can\'t help it. It\'s like he brings it on himself. Then tells me to quit being so mean. Then he shouldn\'t do such stupid things!!!

It's not what he says but what he does that you should go by.

im right there with you,,,,im older than my bf we have been together 9 yrs the last four have been crap,caught him on facebook checking out younger womens profiles,i went mad,told him if you want that dont waste my time,got all the hearts and flowers crap,then i got on his youtube history i was mortified i take care off my self and we had a great sex life i found feet vids rednail vanish what the hell ,,,,blondes,,,i confronted him as im to brunette said he didnt lk blondes ,,,called me a snake for snooping it makes you feel insecure in your own sexually ability and body i feel deflated the intimacy is gone i told him he gave it to his internet sluts,i cut up all my sexy underwear ,and like you i cringe when we have sex because all that i see is those girls as he looks at me ,it hurts i want to punch him in the mouth when he says i love you poodle,,, yeah right so im at a crossroad i have not had sex with him for 6 mths till he admits he has a porn problem ,,,,its me or porn i dont give a shit anymore we dont talk

Well really, they tell you they love you so much and do all kinds of things then bam! They just crap on ya with stuff like this. Like wth are we suppose to think? I cannot stand the way he checks out other women. It's embarrassing. I have brought it up to him many times too and he denies the hell out of it. I've told him to be straight up that if he wants a 20 year old, go for it! Just tell me and we'll be done. Sad that I can say that so easily. That's how pissed I am with this.