I miss him...

Well... I was dating this guy. He was perfect for me. Or at least I thought so. We could talk to each other with ease, and we had a great physical relationship. But things fell apart. Somehow we've stayed in contact. He texts me and calls me. For absolutely no reason. He still has maintained a serious interest in what goes on in my life. I still really care for him. I miss him. But I don't know how long I can take just being his friend. It's really difficult for me. I want more, but I can't tell what he wants. What guy, that just broke up with you, actively asks about your life and calls you out of the blue?

How long have you guys been broken up? If it hasn't been too long, it could just be that both of you want to come back to your "happy home" and you don't want to start over. I'm sure you both miss each other. Trust me, he misses you. If your reason for breaking up was significant, though, don't let the aftermath feelings overwhelm you. It's going to be awhile before his text messages and calls don't make you want to be with him again. :)

It hasn't been long. Only about 2 weeks. I know that it will take time. But the quick jump from gf to best friend is insane.

Yea I totally get that. Maybe you shouldn't be friends right now until you can get your feelings gathered. It will make it really hard to hear from him all the time if you care for him this much.

Depending on how you two fell apart & who initiated the ending of the relationship, my guess is that even if he doesnt want to get back together, he is dealing with the loss of the relationship & possibly isnt ready to let go of contact with you. Once there is no contact, maybe both of you will have to admit what you lost. Things fell apart for a reason, so if it wasnt meant to be, only time will heal your heart. Cliche i know but trust me on this. Take it one step at a time, reduce the contact you have little by little & soon enough you can stop feeling the way you do. I was with a guy, the perfect man i thought to, for 3.5 years, by the end i was very unhappy & even though it was hard to end things with him i broke it off & that was the moment i found out that he didnt try & fight for me. He told me for so long he loved me wanted to spend forever with me & then when i walk away he justs lets me however he still acts like im his best friend & calls & texts me all the time. Lately i hear from him once a month. We have been broken up for 3 months. So just give it time. THings will work out ok.

Thanks everyone. I feel like you are just reminding me of what I've been feeling. It's good to know that there is support out there when things get difficult.