I love her and can't give up

well basically iv been with my gf for just over 2 years in the beggining it was amazing and we were so in love and it was going great thn after about a year she fell out with her mother and was forced to move in with me but neither of us thought we was ready but we went along with it but after a while she started getting stressed out with college and the house we lived in was falling apart and to add to it i lost my job and couldnt get another but we carried on and tried to make the best of it but we started arguing alot and eventually it all got to much and she ended up splitting up with me and moving bck home with her mother she latter told me tht she has fallen out of love with me but still loved me just not in love this was devastating as i love her so much but after a while i manged to talk her into giving it another go but by thn my situation had gotten worse and i needed to move back home with my parents this ment that we had no money to have fun and no ware we could be alone and to make it worse her house is a mad house and she never gets any sleep which affects her studies which makes her grumpy having all this happen to me and not knowing wat to do i became desperate and very clingy which pushed her away and we split again she still says she cares very much for me and hopes we stay friends but i think we should stll keep trying im finnally starting to get interviews for work again and i have joined the terratorial army so things will look up again very soon but she thinks she wont be able to get her feelings back but i think she is just scared i know we can make it work i love her with all my heart and a future with out her just doesnt make sense please help i dont know wat to do i need her bck in my life

I'm sorry you're going through such turmoil, and unfortunately, nothing any of us say on here will truly help, other than to let you know that you are truly not as alone as you feel. If there was an elixir to take to get her feelings back for you, that would be wonderful. Unfortunately, as I've had to learn in my own relationships--you truly have to pull back and disengage to get her to come back--IF that is possible. Its the old "less-is-more" philosophy. It sucks but it it true. The more you show her you want her (via calls, texts, emails, gifts, etc.), the less she will want you. The more you pull away and show her you can and have moved on (even if you haven't!), the more she'll be curious and want to get closer to you again. Its a damn game, but one we are forced to play... Good Luck my friend, and remember, if worse comes to worse and you don't end up with this woman--there will be other women who are on the same plane of "readiness" that you are. That's the key to making a relationship truly work--that both persons are as equally ready to be together. Let me know what happens ([e-mail address removed])