Finished relationship

Me and my boyfriend broke up about a month ago because i got drunk and was unfaithful but he doesnt know the extent of my unfailthfulness in the relationship, just that i was. We didnt have the ideal relationship, but ever since we broke up im having real trouble getting over him. He said he really wanted us to remain friends and i said i would but its made it harder in the long run for me as he is completely over me and i cant get over him at all. So, we decided to take a break from talking for a little while, and since things have been much better for me. But somedays i just think back to the things he doesnt know and feel so guilty about what has happened. Do you think i should tell him the full truth, or leave it at me being unfaithful now that we are nothing more than friends and try get over the guilt. To tell the full truth would cause a lot of problems due to him being close to another member of my family, which is how i met him in the first place, maybe causing that family member to drop contact with me altogether.

What happened is a real shame, you obviously thought the world of him and now you feel there's no going back. There are people who are able to forgive infidelity but there are many others who just can't be in a relationship where the trust has gone. I think he knows that if he had stayed with you he would have been constantly worrying about what you were up to and that there would always be arguments where he might bring up what you did. Sometimes there really is no going back after someone has been unfaithful and you have no choice but to respect his decision. At least you parted on good terms, which is encouraging and I think with a little time and space you will both move on with your lives. I know it would make you feel a lot better to confess everything but it's not fair on him. He knows you were unfaithful, he doesn't need to know the gory details, it will only cause him more pain and if you think anything of him you will spare him that. Your problem is that you haven't really come to terms with what you did and telling him won't help that, you have to do it alone. You made a mistake in that you hurt someone but you have to look at why it happened, people are unfaithful for lots of reasons, often if they're unhappy or feel there is something missing. You need to understand what you want from life, perhaps you're not ready for a relationship and need to be single for a while. Life is trying to teach you something here so learn the lesson and forgive yourself. That is the only way you will find closure. You don't need to tell him any more, sometimes there's no point in the truth if all it does is hurt.