Very much in love

I had an "affair" while I was separated. The other man left his wife, and we were together for about 2 months. We were very happy and very compatible. I eventually went back to my husband out of guilt for my children. The other man was completly devestated and went back to his wife. It's been 3 months and I miss him so much its unreal. I want him back. I have sent him a few emails apologizing... but he will not answer me. How can I get him back?

This man quite rightly doesn't trust you. You left him for your husband. You cheated on your husband with him. Unless you divorce, the affair guy will never be able to trust that you won't go running back to hubby. You have to decide how serious you are for this man. End your marriage (and he must end his, too) - only then would he be able to trust you, and you him.

I agree with Sharelle, you both need to be fully committed to each other in order to establish the trust. As a result of how the relationship started between you, you both are now aware of what the other is capable of and that will always be in the back of your mind and his.