Help needed!..Cheating on my husband

Am married for 6 yrs now. My husband is a very good man.He takes good care of me and loves me so much but somehow sex dint work between us. I never got satisfied,Initial years we did not bother about it much since we were emotionally involved and so in love. After 4yrs I met a guy at work and started flirting for fun which led to an affair. I never knew why I was so emotionally attached to the new guy too though I had everything from my husband.But yes I was more sexually attracted to the guy at work and so he was, After an year relationship with him I had sex and it was great.I never felt that way and I was satisfied the way I want.Now the problem is am so obsessed with this guy that I cant let go of him. His parents wants to get him married and when he shared the picture of girl, and spoke to her for his dads happiness or whatever bullshit am so upset that I cant move on nor concerntrate on anythingelse.I get so depressed and disturbed.My husband doesn't have a clue of whats going on.I really don't know what to do.I cant leave my husband too nor I can get forgiveness. Someone please help me with this.

Dear EVIEMA, I understand what you are going through. From whatever you have written I think the guy is not serious about you. He just wanted to have fun. I feel so because he is now trying to get married to someone else after having an affair with you. If he was serious about you he would have asked you to divorce your husband and want to marry you. Sorry to say this but he took advantage of your need. Dont blame yourself for whatever happened. Everyone makes mistakes. The best thing is to forget him. Concentrate on your husband now. Talk to him regarding your sexual dissatisfaction. Consult a good doctor. I am sure things will work out well. All the best and God bless you. Keep smiling and be happy :)

Hello ..thanks for the reply Swan.its not that the new guy wants to have fun, am so blind in his love,hes fine if I divorce and marry him but I don't want to do it.Am really not sure that he can make me happy so he decided to listen to his parents.We decided to put this to an end but its very difficult to get over him.Am finding ways to get myself busy and struggling a lot to move on.I asked him some time not to talk about his marriage to me.Problem is am so confused with myself that I always think how can I be so bad to fall for a guy even after marriage with such a lovely man.Please help me get out of this. Hope you reply soon.

Im a man so this is a different perspective than maybe others might see. I don't know about all men but I love it when a woman tells me what she wants in bed. All women and men alike are turned on by different things. Tell your husband what you want in bed. Be vocal, talk a little dirty. As far as this other guy I agree with that other person. He was just using you for a good time. Thats all the advice I have. You show me a man that says he knows how to please all women and I'll show you a lier. Good luck. Me and you have the opposite problems

Oh my goodness! I'm in this same situation. I feel bad because I do love my husband too! It's one of the toughest situations I've ever been in. I hope yours got resolved!