Being fat

I had a boyfriend whom i met online.We were in a relationship for two months after talking to each other for almost a year. During our second meeting, he constantly commented on my weight like the chair would break if i sat on it etc. The next day he broke up with me. I came to know that all this while he had been cheating on me and he was already in another relationship before we started dating. I was shattered. Another thing that kept bothering me was maybe he decided to break up with me all of a sudden because he thought i was fat. This had really affected my self esteem. It has been a year now. However there are people and even some of my friends who keep calling me fat. Recently i was talking to ths new guy i have a crush on. And even he called me fat. He later said he was joking but i know that it wasn't a joke. I am losing all my self confidence now. It really hurts when people comment about my weight and no one seems to really understand how much it hurts to hear it. I am feeling really depressed. And i don't find myself SO fat. So why the hell do people keep taunting me? Please help. And yes i do exercise. But the fact is i am really hurt.

Hi, There. I just read your story, it seems like you are having a hard time... hope things get better for you. I don't know if this helps (is just my opinion), but I think the first person you should love in this world is yourself. You should love and respect yourself, because it's you! Relationships are complicated, people are complicated, you, me, everyone. In a relationship, be it with your boyfriend, your family or your friends, you need to know yourself, your limits. If you don't, people will pass over you and it's not because they are evil, but because they don't know you. And if you don't put yourself, they will never know. So, if someone call you fat again, just ask "so what?". Does that defines you? of course not. We are human beings, something much more complex than just being fat, or tall, or short, or skinny etc. You Know... People don't always give value to the important things, and they often regret it someday. When we are young, we have this feeling that we can do and have everything we want. But, life is there and as the time passes, we start to see things are not like that. Find what (not who) makes you happy and try to live happily. Age comes to us all and we will not always be here to enjoy life as we should. So, just try to enjoy yourself how you can! I wish the best for you. - H (sorry about the mistakes, my english is not the best....)