Daughter

My daughter recently went through a terrible, painful divorce from a violent controlling man,I helped and supported her every step of the way,looking after my grandchildren why she gained a degree, using half my savings to enable her to buy a home of her own. My daughter insists on keeping up a good relationship with her ex in laws, even though they threatened her with court action should she not agree to access with the grandchildren and hurt her very badly by entertaining her ex husbands mistress. She is still living the same life with these awful people, this upsets me dreadfully, he has moved on to a different area two hundred miles away and never sees the children, or gives my daughter any money for their upkeep, which his family are aware of. I want my daughter to move on but they just wont let her.I cant talk to my daughter about this subject as she really seems happier with them than her own family. Am I just being stupid, I just feel really used?

hi, i can see why your upset but your daughter seems to have her childrens best interests at heart by keeping in contact with her in laws if only for the childrens sake has she put them 1st,the other grandparents wanted access to their grandchildren and would do anything to make sure they could even court,i can imagine how hurt u are but you have supported your daughter throughout,and you sound like a lovely lady as long as you and your daughter and grandchildren are happy thats the main thing, the ex husband is out of the picture so he sounds like a loser ,do the other grandparents but things and spend time with the children,if they do that means they have the childrens best interest at heart as you do,its tricky but ur daughter has made a choice for them to be involved in their lives and you must try and accept that and be happy for your grandchildren that they have such lovely grandparents.