Out of the blue breakup

Hi. I met my ex via an online dating site in May, we started phoning and messaging daily and met up in July. We seemed a perfect match for each other and hit it off straight away. In September he took me away on holiday and then we viewed a house together. October we moved in together and we seemed perfect together, friends on both sides said they'd never seen us so happy. Christmas as started coming and we did all sorts together, we were a very sensitive couple and both commented it was nice to meet a partner who enjoyed affection as we did because me at 29 and him at 34 we'd had exs who didn't like it so full on. At Christmas he bought me a car and iPad, for New Years he took me to Dublin. We'd talked of marriage to each other and children. I came off the coil and he said when my divorce was finalised early January he'd propose, he even had a live band in mind for our wedding. We chose names for our baby we hoped to have conceived in Dublin and New Years. Sunday gone we had a great family day trip and Tuesday morning we viewed a larger property to accommodate our growing family. Then Tuesday around 2pm I had a driving lesson with him and during making an error on a round about I said I couldn't do t I'd had enough and wanted to go home. He said I'd snapped at him, I could see he was upset so we sat in silence, 3pm I tried to kiss him he pulled away. Then we were cool with each other and by Wednesday night I asked him to sit down and talk 7pm he said there's nothing left to talk about he's going to bed. The next morning he woke and said its over. That was that. He asked me go leave with the kids and I've been in my parents back bedroom with my kids crying since. I just can't get my head around it. I've begged and begged him to see how perfect we are but he says I was ungrateful for all the time he'd put unto researching for that car and threw his efforts of teaching me back in his face, he'd rather be single. Said he drove past me and didn't feel a thing and that I have to accept its over, if I keep contacting him he'll delete me. How can a person fall out of love so quick?? I can't accept he could so I hold onto hope he'll soften but I really don't think he will. So how then do I recover from such a shock? I love him :-( this is crazy we were getting engaged and planning a family!! :-(

Thanks for your reply. With hindsight I suppose your right it all happened so quickly. I wish he hadn't ever ended it, I don't understand. I should try to come to terms with it but I don't know how

You met him via online dating...did you go back and see if he is back on the site looking or have found another woman? Men are doing that a lot lately. I will never do online dating again. Soon as they find someone new you are out the picture.

Hi Mum - Remind me what 'mistake' you made again?This guy sounds like 'Jekyll and Hide'. It would seem you found out just in time before making a much bigger mistake! I'm sure it hurts BUT...what would he be capable of later with a real mistake? Take care of yourself and things will get better...this too shall pass. Good luck, whatsup