I love my best friend but....

I know this seems cliche and like it's an easy fix. People have told me Just tell her, or be upfront and other things like that, but the thing is I can't tell her. I love her dearly and I realized this when Every atom in my being wanted to protect her when I heard she was going to go hang out with someone I don't trust at all, and I feel like he's dangerous, but she knows that's how I feel, and she considers him a good friend. The worst part of it all I know she is in love with someone else. someone who's married. She has dreams about him and breaks down when she wakes up. It sucks being the person who you love's best friend and when they tell you everything you can't do a thing no matter how much it hurts. I know people have probably posted problems like this before, but for me it's different because I know if I tell her she will distance herself from me and I can't handle that right now. I have a lot of other emotional problems I'm working through. This really hit me at the worst time, and I really am not the type to ask for help, but I honestly have no clue what to do. Please help me.

I honestly know where you're coming from, so much So that I feel honor bond to reply. Truth is you already know what you need to do. If you do nothing you WILL get hurt I swear on my life you will. At least you'll have a chance if you tell her. It'll be off your chest and one way or another you'll be able to finally move forward. If you're lucky she'll move forward with you Good luck my friend

Susieqd, I Did not put myself in this position. I didn't purposely fall in love with this woman. If I had a choice in the matter I wouldn't be here. I also don't appreciate being called a needy puppy when I'm here for help, not criticism. I understand that this reply my be in tune with your personality or your mood at that current time, But For future reference Please don't Tell people that They can't win and that they are being a needy child basically, as it does more harm then good and this site is all about good. I apologize If this reply to your reply offends you or hurts your ego as it is not my goal.

You state you know she's in love with someone else and she confides in you about it. The fact that she can't see that you are in love with her should tell you how she views you. You are a friend. But, if she saw you as a real friend, then she wouldn't distance herself from you if you told her how you feel. Real friends don't tell you what you want to hear... This girl will do your head in with her issues, but if you want to remain her best friend, on your behalf, then you have to learn to weather it until she sorts her issues out. And you're in for some rough weather if you hang around while she does this.....but that's YOUR choice.