Perspectives on mixing business and socializing

First time I've ever posted anything like this on any website. So I wouldn't classify this as a huge problem, just one where my wife and I perhaps share different perspectives, and I am open to listening to feedback that I may just need to be open to a different perspective. My wife and I are both young widowed, and found each other. Were in a solid relationship (7 yrs), our blended family is going well. I am a professional and travel extensively on business, and my wife is President of a state chapter of a non profit organization and travels as well. I work hard to maintain boundaries to keep confidence and trust in our relationship, so when I travel on business, I just have a rule of thumb that I don't have drinks alone with another woman. Maybe its archaic, but I figure why walk too close to the line. In a group - no problem. And I always let my wife know who I am with, and what I am doing, not because she is controlling - just out of respect for the relationship. This past weekend my wife was traveling alone with another guy in the organization - they were both going to training on the East Coast, and were going to meet up with other people in the organization when they arrived. I happen to know the guy she was traveling with pretty well. He's married, but its obvious he likes to give and get attention to and from other women. I was at work Friday and got photos texted from both my wife and this guy at a bar in the Airport having wine together, (a "special" wine from a winery in California that my wife and I went to on our anniversary.) He was taunting me in his texts that he was with my wife having drinks, saying she was rubbing his leg and it felt good, etc.. I wasn't comfortable with it, so I told her in a kind way I tole her it bothered me, and I thought it would probably bother her if the situation were reversed. She believes I am being unreasonable, that "its just too platonic friends having a few drinks", and she can't control his trying to make me jealous. So…just looking for other perspectives. I'm not a prude. I like to have fun, but I've always tried to maintain boundaries for myself, and give my spouse freedom in our relationship. Open to suggestions/perspectives. Thanks.

I don't think it's worth the worry if you know you trust your wife in a 7 year solid relationship. Forget about the other guy who you know pretty well....people like him never learn. They both sent you photo texts, so they were open about it. I'd be worried if someone else sent you the photos without their knowledge. The thing is, why does your wife think your opinion is unreasonable?....and she can control his ability to try and make you jealous by not being part of it. Just my thoughts from my 25 years from 'on the road' as a sales exec.

Thanks for the responses. Getting other perspectives is helpful and provided validation for what I thought was the proper response. There really isn't a rule either one of us have - and I an far from a controlling person, so it is more of a mutually agreed principle of: Try to think of how the other person would feel if you were in their shoes. So I simply shared that it was something that bothered me a bit - and we do have control over what we do when we are with certain people. If some woman would have texted the same message to my wife - I would have been in big trouble, and the woman who was trying to make my wife jealous and erode our trust would have been in big trouble with me! So all I can do is to continue to do the right thing and not let the situation of her having drinks with someone who is an idiot get in the way of our relationship. Thanks.