Her family is ruining our marriage

Ladies and Gents, sit down and prepare your self, because this is a whopper. ok I've been knowing my wife for four yrs now, we started of as just intimate partners, we decided it would be a great idea to become more, she fell in love with me and I seen it in her eyes, so I broke the ice and told her that I love her first and yes ppl I love her too, so we dated for a while and things where great, despite the fact that I felt that there was another man in the picture before we made it serious, she would come from a distance to see me and be with me, which was about 45 mins each way, but still she felt that I was worth it. well as time went on we became very serious and on her birthday I asked her to marry me, (very emotional moment)so she said yes, now at first we decided on sep, 11th, family got involved and we changed it to sep 29th, basically we where trying to keep the families happy, well the end date was set for oct, 11th 2012 the most happiess day of my life, now mind you, my wife never have been much of a conversationalist but we had sperts of conversations here and there, we got a place to stay she also has three kids that I love as my own, so in nov, of 2013 my wife's father passed away, not to put her business out there but their was so much hurt and deceit between the two and there is a lot of bad history between the two, well her father lived in ca. so I suggested that she go see her father for the last time, since he had passed away, I basically had to force her to do so, but before hand she didn't even want to speak to him, in which I forced her again, but 3hrs later her father passed after speaking with him, now mind you after his passing we made preparations so that she could go see him for the last time, she flew to ca. for a week I took care of the kids, and made sure that home was taken care of, when my wife came back, from all the stress and frustration she contracted graves disease in which I was there for her every step of the way, hospitals after hospitals, she lost so many pounds that I became afraid, for sure I thought it was cancer, so as she felt more sick each day I was there for her, well we have had problems even before our marriage, my ex would call, txt, and even go as far as come by. now I admit I was wrong for even responding to my ex, that was our start to this situation, but it didn't stop there I would also txt, talk, and be on different website talking to women, it became persistent and the thing is I feel guilty because I was ruining our marriage, and I knew I was, as time went on I would get caught and promise to stop, and would do so for about 3mos or so then start right back up, I kept getting caught in which she wanted to leave me then, but I begged and pleaded with her to stay, I knew that I had emotionally scared her, so we fell into a void, now the reason for this internet cheating was because there was no conversation between us and I felt as if the walls where closing in on me, so my only way out was connecting with these women on the internet, our sex life was non existent because of her illness, and at the moment I had no job, which also put a lot of stress on me as well, my wife had been footing everything for a long time, I did look for a job every single day, but I became depressed more and more each day, well this last time was too much for her to bare and I knew it, so she asked me to leave and give her time to think, she needed time for her self, I became lost, hurt, and confused, just knowing that this was our end, so I fought this as much as I could to stay in the house, but just the site of me made it worse, so I left and gave her what she asked for. now I admit I called every chance I could and txt as much as I could, little did I know her family was involved, her aunt who raised her and her mom, which made our situation worse, her family is basically feeding her their opinon and making me out to be this guy that im not, so yesterday I went to our house grabbed a few things and talk to my wife and kids, after I leave an hour later I get a call from her aunt telling me to stay away from her don't call or txt just leave her alone, I feel like this, that is my wife why is she in the middle of this, this is between me and my wife, why is she altering what we have to rebuild, what was sais is that, she claims I slept with my ex the day before our wedding, and I wasn't even man enough to explain to her son what I did, and I had been cheating on my wife all this time, and while this heated argument was going on with her aunt my wife txt me and said ( I cant do this, I cant make this work, im sorry but I cant) I instantly figured divorce, so I shedded my tears and call the fellows to come help me get through this, like I said though I knew what I've done and have to suffer whats coming to me, well I received a txt last night from my wife, stating that all of my txt came through and that she wasn't ignoring me, and I asked if I could come get my things she stated over the week end so im ok with that. whats so confusing is that I asked my wife where do we go from here, her answer was "not sure but would like to see in the future just not now, you have been my world for so long, so I know at some point I would like you to be in my life again" just not sure what that means or how at this point.... I asked her was she planning on filing papers, her answer.... no im not... doubt I ever will.... but if you choose to I understand... not what I want even though we aren't together. im so confused someone please help me.

I am going to be cold here. You ruined your relationship. You needed to communicate with her that she was not communicating with you and not running off to another female source. I am glad someone is saving her and standing up for her. Look at yourself instead of blaming others.