Curiosity killed the cat

So V-day is right around the corner and I went online to get pricing on a phone my husband has been asking for, while I logged in to his account I saw a button that said history....well I clicked it and I saw that there are 3 numbers that he has been calling private during his lunch and break times. I called the numbers private and nobody answered, I tried online websites trying to find out who the numbers belonged to but still nothing! Back in November he admitted and told me that he tried calling his ex, he says he doesn't want to be with her. He treats me like a queen and I have nothing bad to say about him. Last time before I saw those calls I asked him if he thought about his Ex and he swore up and down that he didn't miss her at all (she was abusive) Now that I saw these calls I want to know why in the world if he has nothing to hide why is he calling people private while he is at work. But I don't know how to ask him or how to bring it up. He is going to think I am a stalker or something and honestly that is not the case, I am afraid if I bring this up the trust will be lost and he won't even feel comfortable using his own phone, I dont want to make things awkward, and I know either way he is going to be upset because I went through his phone records, I know I should have respected his privacy and just kept looking for the phone but I just could not help myself. What is the best way to handle this situation!! i AM SO SCARED

I know exactly how you feel. I hate that I found out something's about my boyfriend the way I did, and as my mom always said what's done in the dark always comes out in the light. If those numbers were private it could be anyone. Unfortunately there are no way to get that information. If you know you can't trust your husband it will always be any underlying secret, men are sneaky and lie to not deal with confrontation. So prepare for that. He will seek defense immediately. As long is there is no interruption in your life, ie coming in at 2am, lies constantly etc... I would leave it be. Just make clear when you buy him that phone it's not for use to call the ex!

If your marriage is sound, then your husband won't have a problem if you're upfront with him about this. The fact that you can log onto your husband's account tells us what sort of a marriage you have. OK, maybe he's been 'secretive' about it when he's rang those numbers from his workplace without your knowledge but if you can log onto his account, then he's basically not hiding anything. I don't understand how your husband can think you're a stalker when your marriage is open. You state, he treats you like a queen but all men who are happily married treat their woman like royalty. Your husband has the answers for you with this issue...all you need to do is ask him.

Hi MCMC187 - There are sites on the internet that can track ANY phone number! You have to pay for the service but IF you really want to know... Do you believe that all 3 numbers belong to the same person? IF you want to keep the relationship as it is...KEEP YOUR SECRET! He has secrets as you found out! Has this damaged your trust in the relationship? IF you want to blow the whole thing up, I would say have your ammo ready and find out whose numbers those are. And oh yes, there will be the whole 'privacy issue' BUT you did find out with 'an absence of malice'. You have to decide how far you want to go...and where you will be when you get there. Do take your time to decide...this could, if it hasn't already, change youe whole life. Good Luck. Whatsup