Have I let this go on too long?

I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now. I have a lot of fun with him but a lot of problems we have are induced by him. He easily gets offended over very small things. (getting upset because I played cat and mouse with him at school, laughing along with one of his friends when he did something silly, getting upset when I tell him to stop doing something to me) I don't get upset by much so when these things happened I would quickly forget about it and move on but there have been times when he has hurt me pretty deeply. Once he completely ignored me when I was in pain simply because of the cat and mouse thing. Honestly that was a huge problem when we first started. He would get upset over something and disappear. I use to fret but now I'm to the point I just let him sulk. Now the recent recurring problem is his hardheadedness. He refuses to accept "no" the first time. I have to debate with him just to get him to drop something. Even though I told him about my discomfort with sexual and physical things because of molestation in my youth, he still gives me a hard time. It takes way too many "no"s and hand swats to even keep him from groping me in public or around his family. What lead me to post this was the argument we just had which started because I didn't want to video chat with him while I was shirtless. He kept saying "I have the computer the other way" and "I'm alone" but the fact still remains I simply didn't want to do such a thing. (plus a guy friend of ours was in the same room. I could hear him clearly.) I finally decided to give him the ultimatum of "listen or I'm done" but have I waited too long? I feel like I've let this get this far because he has the sweetest family on earth and I do feel he loves me but...I don't know. This is my first relationship and I suspect I'm holding on so tightly because I've never done this before and don't want to let his family down( even though they joke that I'm going to get tired of him and that I'm too good for him). Advice please. This is getting way too stressful. We're in college now and while I'm pushing to do better he's already on academic probation and hasn't filled out a job description in a while. He did say he would join the military but a reason for doing so is to marry me and have me stay on site with him...

Yes, you have waited too long and you don't need anyone's permission to take control of your life. The way you've described your BF comes across that he's pretty immature and by the sound of it, he's 'out of step' with you. His family can be ok people, but why worry about letting them down?... you need to do what you have to do for you.

Hey there. Listen, don't ever do anything you don't feel like doing. It seems like you are too young still for these things, you don't feel the same sexual desire your boyfriend does. One of my ex boyfriends was pushing me as well. We broke up soon after. If a boy is pushing you to have sex even if he can see you don't want it, then he is no good for you. Even more, that thing about having a video chat with you shirtless. He lied to you that he was alone! You said yourself you could hear that there is someone else in the room. In my opinion this boy has no respect for you at all. Trust me, this may be your first relationship, but it doesn't mean your first sexual experience should be with this boy. If you don't feel it don't do it. Otherwise you may regret it for the rest of your life.

Thanks to both of your I ended it today. Sadly I can't say I didn't allow him to lure me into sex so I've accepted that I'll just have to live with my mistake and move on.