Texting cheating

Hi, If there is a guy, maybe over 50 that has some insight, would appreciate it. Been with my bf for 3 years in March. Love him very much, but I don't know if he is restless, or just a cheater by nature. Concerned that he may just want to keep the relationship in place because we bought a house together and co-mingled lots of things. All the stuff in the house is nice and was mine before we moved in together. He has a very nice life style with me. Without it he would go back to an apartment living like a bachelor. He has good retirement but I make quite a bit more than him. I am questioning whether he is staying with me for convenience or if he even loves me anymore. I caught him face booking and old college girlfriend last summer. He stopped. Now, he got a text message Saturday from a woman at 8 am Saturday morning that said "good morning sweet man" I just felt like he was distant and am ashamed to say I looked at it, but what else can I do? Is he a serial cheater? Or, is he just bored, loves me but just needs this type of ego boost in life? He does treat me well, but I am concerned...

well i think here that he is having a little low confidence and you need to tell him things like hes handsome today give him compliments so he doesn't have to go back to some ex's for confident boosts and if it doesn't stop then hes cheating and doesn't have low confidence hes probably seeing if he can get better than you then you show him there is no girl better than you

Brighteyes, actions speak with everything we do in life and more so when it comes to our relationships with our partners. Your partner is contacting other woman behind your back and regardless of his reasons, he is, in a sense, betraying you and your relationship. You are his 'ego boost' and if he looks for other ways, even without realizing it, then your relationship is in trouble. If your relationship was sound, he would tell you if he had other woman friends who are just that...that way he's upfront with you and your relationship would be open. Quite often when we reach our mature years, we have friends of both genders whom we have 'collected' over the years, regardless of our relationship status. Some of these friends can be very close but the true ones respect you and yours. The done thing is to have these friends openly, and not furtively. Ask yourself if you have trust, honesty and respect in your relationship and ask yourself if you have communication because if you have, then you can sit your partner down and ask him what he is doing and how he feels about your relationship.