0 [26m] and [24f] worried about her cheating while on a trip with her friends

So a little back story, I'm 26 and this is my first relationship. So I really have no idea what I'm doing and just need some advice. My girlfriend is going on a trip to New York in April to visit some friends. She said they're going to do the club thing and that she'll be drinking a lot. I don't drink hardly at all anymore, only a couple a beers per month. I've talked to her about cheating before and she said that she had once before while she was studying abroad. She said the guy she was in the relationship with at home was an asshole and that she kind of had his permission because he said she could go crazy... She also told me that one time she was really drunk and came to making out with some guy. All of this has me worried that when she makes that trip to New York, she might cheat. I don't know if I'm just being paranoid or I shouldn't worry about it. I really like this girl but part of me thinks that I should just date someone who doesn't drink so that I don't have to worry about alcohol clouding judgement.

Move on brother you don't want to live your life that way trust me!if your having doubt now what will you do when your married with children! If she doesn't want to go with you then she has something to hide.

Jriley, you said it. You need to date someone who you can trust and who is on your level and shares your values and standards when it comes to acceptable behavior in relationships. We need predictability in our lives and more so in our personal relationships. Your GF is unpredictable when she drinks. She's admitted it. It doesn't matter if she's given you a 'heads up' with it, your instinct is telling you that you are uncomfortable with her and her drinking habits. Alcohol is damaging when it controls us and it affects those closest to us the most. There are plenty of people who use it as an excuse for their actions (cheating is one) and sometimes these actions are terminal for personal relationships. Do you need a lifetime of this? or do need a predictable and stable partner who respects you as you would respect her? And just one more thing, Jriley, there's an old saying...once a cheater, always a cheater.

I talked to her via text about this and she said that when she left to go study abroad that her ex started dating someone else and that they both knew that they were done when she left. He told her to explore her options is what she told me. She also said that she didn't want to get herself in a situation where cheating was even remotely a possibility while in New York. She also said that I was the best guy she's ever dated. However, we've been dating 6 months and she comes over 2 times per week and not usually any more than that. We text a lot and she says she spends a lot of time with her family. I don't know what I can do to ease the paranoia I have for when she does make the trip. Any ideas or should I just break up with her to spare myself the pain later?

Jriley, if she stated that they will be doing the club scene and drinking a lot and has also stated that she came close to making out with some guy when really drunk, regardless of when it was, then she's basically told you what CAN happen when she drinks. How can she say she's not going to get into a situation where cheating is an impossibility if she is going to the very environment where it nearly happened before? You have trust issues with your GF because she has presented an unpredictable scenario to you. Despite the state of your relationship, you really don't know your GF that well and that's where the doubt is creeping in and confusing you. On one side, you have your instinct (gut), on the other you have your head & heart. And this is your first relationship. Jriley, ask yourself what is it, that's shouting at you, when you ask about sparing yourself the pain later?

She has made out with a guy when drunk and not realized it. I mean that's the huge red flag for me, that's what makes me want to end it. Maybe I'll just wait until after valentines day : (

No Jriley, end as quick as you can if you're going down that track because your pain has already started. Always be true to yourself. be well young bro

To clarify, not while we have been dating but in the past. I'm going to have to do some serious thinking over the next few days. Is there anything I could ask her to see how she sees our relationship?

Jriley, there's a couple of things you can ask her about your relationship but the challenge will be to believe her because of the trust issues. Her actions will speak and not so much her words. One thing you should remember, is that alcohol doesn't lie and so when people make excuses that they didn't know what they were doing under it's influence, it tells you that that's exactly what they wanted to do because they have lost their inhibitions.

So where do I go from here? The next time we meet just say I want to break up be basically I don't trust her using alcohol and being faithful?