Boyfriend with children

So me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year. I do realize that really isnt that long. When we first got together he was still married with 2 kids and one on the way. At this point in time he is still married and obviousy has 3 children. His wife is a complete skum bag (and i swear im not just saying that because she is the ex). I tried getting to know her and be close to her for the kids so they could be a part of my life. That didnt work out. It has been many months sense i have even seen her. But now my bf wants me and his kids to hang out and do stuff. And i really love children but i am just so uncomfortable about it. I get upset everytime he talks about them and i always make excuses about why i cant see them. I know that if i love him i need to accept him and his children but i dont think i can do that even though i love him so much. Im only 20 thoughh and he is 25. I guess what i need help with is if it honestly is the best thing for me to do to break up with him. I want the answer to be no sense i love him but i know thats probably not the right answer

I'm going to be straight with you because I've been in the situation you're in and I have stuck it through for over 8 years. If you're really not feeling it for the kids, then you need to be honest with your man about it. Maybe he'd be happy letting you take your time falling into the role he is wanting you to fall in. Dealing with children, although very rewarding, can be difficult. Especially when they are not your own. I've butted heads with my girlfriends eldest son many times over the years and it hasn't always been a happy situation for me, him, or her as a result. If you feel your not ready for the role of parent/step parent, it might be better for everyone involved if you broke it off, and sooner better than later. It's not to say that you and him aren't good for each other, it's just that he's probably not going to have the time for you that you need in the relationship. My girlfriend and I never do anything together, just her and I, and it's taken its toll over the years. I'm not trying to scare you. You need to communicate with him about this and maybe it will work, maybe it wont. But if you stay and end up unhappy, the situation can get messy (i.e. you may end up loving everyone very much, yet be unhappy in the relationship.) Right now you have only one heart to worry about. He has four and if they all end up loving you and you decide to leave because your unhappy, then it will cause a lot of hurt for them all, as well as for yourself.