My ex is on my mind on a daily basis

Hi, I'm in need of some relationship advice. Long story short, my ex is on my mind a lot lately. We met in April, 6 months later we break up. First love, first heartbreak. I was devastated. However, I was on the mend. I broke contact with her, because it appeared all she wanted to do was play mind games. I gave seeing someone another go (or few goes). Never made it past texting or a first date, always because I just didn't feel a good enough connection. Except for one girl. I began talking to her just two weeks after my break up. We talked every day. Throughout all the terrible dates and talking to others, we stayed talking. It became apparent to me there's something about her I like. We got along so well online, I asked to meet up. We did and had a great time. 4 months later, and I do really like her. I'm planning on asking her to be my girlfriend. And ever since I started thinking that, my ex has been on my mind. Memories of us over the summer, even daydreams like if I'm watching tv, I imagine if she was here too. At first, I took this as a sign I'm not over her, and maybe it isn't best to pursue another relationship. But then I began having dreams about her. In all of them, I'm telling her I want nothing to do with her, and in some, that I'm happy with this new girl. That's telling me that maybe I have some unresolved feelings towards her. She did mess me about abit after the breakup, and maybe this is a sign that I feel hard done by, by the fact that I never got to tell her how hurt I was because of her. I'm feeling really confused over what to do. Any advice to get my ex off of my mind? Do you think I should pursue this new potential relationship? Thank you for your time, - M

Melissa, we all need time to get over our previous relationships before we can move on properly to someone else. We need time to get over the hurt. First time relationships are a learning curve because it's the first for everything including the breakup. Your memories are just that, memories, good and bad. and by the sound of things, you have left some things unsaid which probably needed to be said. If your ex wanted to play mind games after your breakup, then you've done the best thing by ignoring her. You need to be completely happy and satisfied in your mind that your ex is just a memory. You need to realize to let go when someone has let you go. There is nothing wrong with developing a relationship with your new friend as long as you don't let your ex get in the way. Time heals everything.