Unique situation, need help

Hi all, I have never in my life posted in a forum but feel lost and desperate hoping someone can give good advice. I have a very unique situation with my boyfriend.... and ridiculously a complicated one. We've been dating for almost 3 years now, and are still very much head over heels in love with each other, we both feel extremely lucky to have found one another. When we first met, before we even thought about dating, he stated that he was dealing with immigration issues (he has always been legally here, please no immigrant-hate responses). Because of some complications in this area he has married his best friend and roommate to help the process (a lengthy time, but still a temporary amount of time). Again, he told me this the first day we hung out there were no surprises for me. This also didn't bother me in the least bit in the beginning, neither of us were looking for anything serious, I am a busy girl with a busy life, and most of my friends are guys which has always been a problem with men, but with his situation I knew he would never be able to complain about my many guy friends. And he never has! He also has a deal with his roommate.... at one point she was in school and he supported her for some time (remember, they have been best friends for almost a decade) so in exchange she would clean and cook. These days, she makes great money in a career and he is now in school, the agreement has reversed. Again, I don't judge any of these things because my best friends are guys and I would see myself doing something similar with one of them. 6 months down the line, we fell very much in love and have been serious and monogamous since. The situation (marriage) should be over soon, but it also should have been over a few years ago (this is due to complications I am not getting into) so I am not holding my breath. As of today, both of us are also extremely busy. We both work 30+ hours a week AND go to school full time in mostly math courses. OUCH. I am incredible at time management, and he sucks at it.... horribly. He has never had a schedule this busy and I have for over 10 years so needless to say, I am way better at managing it than he is. ON TOP of all that, he has to hold his end of the deal up at home and cook dinner most nights and clean. And ... ON TOP OF THAT... he is a man with many hobbies (an expert in several fields) which leaves, well, very very little time for me. So not only do I have to live the mistress life style (for a year or so, and for a few more months we haven't been able to sleep in the same bed, go out of town together, spend too much time at his place, dealing with him being home early to make dinners, normal relationship stuff etc.) but I also see him sparingly. On average, I might see him for 2-3 hours twice a week... usually after work where he is so tired we don't have sex or he can barely keep his eyes open. I am not even sure I can call that an average as it happens once a week just as often. I DO trust him, I am not concerned he is cheating or anything, and not out of ignorance but because he is an extremely ethical person and betrayal is just not a part of his personality in general, even outside me. He does keep me up to date on his schedule and he does try to make time for me (he just isn't very skilled at making time, but the effort is there). Reading this post, I know it looks like a million things wrong with his life and why would I deal with it? But I could write an even longer post about the millions of reasons he and I are great for eachother, a unique puzzle piece kind of fit with the love most people think only exists in movies. And I have never in my life been with someone and thought "I want to be with this person for the rest of my life", until now. But, just like in the movies, I feel like it is doomed love. I deal with depression anyway but this situation has definitely been driving my depression for a few years. The situation will PROBABLY change in the next few months but the busy schedules will not. We communicate about this on a regular basis, but it is usually me just pouring my feelings, him listening and being loving but also saying there isn't much he can do about it for now. ANY advice? Not even sure what I am looking for... just help. I read other people's posts and nobody's situation is even close to mine... just want some non-judgmental feedback.

Lilsmalls, if you can see a light at the end of the tunnel when you're doing it tough, then it makes all the sacrifices, big and small, worth while. Your BF needs to do something more positive than just listen, when you pour your feelings out to him. It's all ok to have hobbies, but you need to realize, your BF needs to put the hobby time on the back burner a bit, to be able to unwind with you rather than unwind with them. Priorities have to kick in somewhere in your hectic lifestyle.