Confused after out of the blue break up

I could probably write a book but will spare you all details. I dated a wonderful guy for 2 years. Yes we were different but not bad we kept each other balanced. Also did have lots in common, he was what I thought my soulmate. He did seem to get upset about little things just to start an argument is what it seemed like and of course always blame me. There were several times we'd call it quits after a few angry texts we'd calm down. I knew in my heart he was a good guy. Worked hard, had morals, honest, trustworthy and great with my son. Since day one he expressed his desire for family, marriage. I was all about but a little apprehensive about the child since mine is grown and I'm older. Never said no, just expressed my nervousness more due to my age. We'd talk about moving in and he'd start a fight. Talk about engagement rings, then came a fight. He'd buy me big item things, then start a fight and ask for the money back or take them. However I loved him and wanted more then anything for it work. He's accuse me of not showing him attention or him not being my type, which would typically turn into a fight. Eventually we ended it. We would text sometimes, sometimes it would start nice and turn into a pissing match and finger pointing. This went on for 4mths. I attempted going out with other guys but I couldn't enjoy myself. Eventually he asked me out on a date (after 4mth break). We went on a couple of dates. Enjoyed each others company. It was nice. Before I brought back into my home I needed to know he really wanted this because I didn't want my son seeing him reappear just to disappear. He assured me he wanted to be with me. The passion wasn't what I expected it to be after a long break but we were very affectionate, together all the time. Content. Then a major appliance breaks on my house. He right away wants to go out get a new one. It was several hundred $ and I was Leary because god forbid he breaks up with me and I'm stuck with this payment. He put his arm on my shoulder and said don't be negative. I'm in this for the long haul. I felt at ease. It was our first major purchase together. Then right after that I had a bad cold, he comes over with a bag full of groceries and makes me homemade veggie soup. Then not even a week later around bedtime I get a text saying he feels like things were back to the way they were before and feels we want different things. Totally caught me off guard, we were texting all day everything was fine. He decided I haven't put effort into this commited relationship and really feels like I don't want the same things he wants? He feels like he has to do everything. To top it off he knows I'm financially strapped working 2jobs says " if we bought a house what would you contribute, do you have $ to put down?" That was thd final straw for me. I was crushed. For the month we were together I went above and beyond to make sure he was getting attention and affection and appreciation cause I knew those things were important to him. Sorry for this ridiculously long post. I am so confused so hurt.

Co326, insecure, controlling, selfish, immature are just a few words that describe this guy. Your relationship was his to run to his rules. You were his to control when he started arguments over little things. His reward was to see you angry and upset and arguing back. In the same way, he's gone away and come back again to control the relationship. His final texting to you of his feelings about the relationship tell you two things...his control again exerting itself and his lack of respect for you. If he was genuine, at the very least, he would sit you down face to face to end the relationship. While you continue allow him to manipulate you, you will be forever on the confusing and miserable merry go round of a doomed relationship. Your soulmate?..I think not.

Two words; MOVE ON!

This just happened to me to and I feel dead inside and like nothing will ever be the same and it won't. I literally can not live without out. He's the only thing I have. Or had...

Run a mile away from him! Downright emotional abuser he is. Will never keep you happy in the long run. Will always blame you for everything that he feels is going wrong in his life. He must have found someone else who can put in $s thats why a sudden outburst.