Silently like my work husband but he has a girlfriend

I like my work husband. He was nice and helpful to me at work. We clicked at work. We enjoyed working together. However, he has a girlfriend. That said, I cannot develop a relationship with him. Also, he may want to keep the work relationship the same. How do I know he just wants a work relationship, not a romantic relationship? He refused to give me his personal email and add me on his Facebook. I understand. Some folks don't want to date someone at work. Two months ago, I was laid off by my company. I lose contact with my work husband. I don't want to contact him through his company email. Why I drop all contacts? I think he does not even want to develop a friendship with me. Once the job ends, our friendship ends as well. I believe he is having a good time with his girlfriend now. But I miss him and I feel heart broken.

Hi WW. Sorry but this relationship has ended, is dead in the water, he had to get on with you because you had to work together. Had he felt any differently he would have said so or made it completely obvious he was into you. Which he hasn't. Time to heal your broken heart and find someone who will want you for you. Plenty of dating sites out there...

I always like my work spouses from different previous jobs. I don't know why I am so into work spouses relationships. I am not very much into dating sites though. I used to like two guys that I worked with. But the relationship ended because of changing jobs. They all move on with others. The work husband I am talking about in the previous post is my third work spouse. I always had a happy time working with this guy. And the memory about him is still deep, but painful. This guy did not date me just because we are co-workers. But this guy has been very nice to me....

When a man loves a woman, he makes it OBVIOUS! I had to learn this the hard way with 10 years! of romanticizing about a friend from high school who kept getting back in contact with me and even visiting me. I finally told myself, hey move on! It's not going to happen. Then I over time, I didn't even care anymore. Next thing you know I meet the man of my dreams who chased me, listened to me, cried with me, and wants to marry me! He took me ring shopping on Valentine's Day. Hello! What was I thinking? STOP ROMANTICIZING and take care of YOURSELF. The right man will come when you least expect it, you will KNOW and not have to make stuff up. I promise!

Thanks you all. I keep missing chances with guys.... Most likely, I am not good at impressing them first hand and miss the chance. The work husband I am talking about...let me call him Mr. Work. Mr. Work is nice to me from the beginning. When I first joined the company, he was very happy to help me out. Other co-workers were aware of that. I am a little soft spoken woman and people said he likes that kind of women. People keep watching us while we worked together. Everyone knows Mr. Work prefers to work from home, and doesn't want to come to the office. But since I joined, Mr. Work came to the office very often. Once, Mr. Work invited me and others to join a social gather outside work. I knew he just wanted to invite me as he never likes other co-workers. But I did not make it because people don't like office romance going on in the office. That said, I missed the chance. There were some company parties, but I did not go with Mr. Work. Why? I know Mr. Work always flirted with me. I don't want to be his third wheel as he has a girlfriend. Mr. Work asked me why I did not join those parties. I just said I was sick. On my last day of work, Mr. Work stopped by in the morning to see me. I did not expect that and I could tell he just want to see me. I could tell Mr. Work likes me, but he does not want any office romance. You know.... some people don't want to date a co-worker for different reasons. Life is never fair. I miss the chance because of the no-office-romance rule.

Have you given him a clue that you too like him? You missing parties and telling him you are sick would have given the impression that you are not interested in him?

My work husband was wondering why I did not go to the parties with him. He hoped to see me in the company parties. But our managers were not happy whenever he flirted with me! There only option for me was to avoid being with my work husband outside work... Also, he has a girlfriend. I did not want to hear him talking about his girlfriend at all. I could tell part of my work husband liked me and part of him likes his girlfriend. I am a quiet little woman who is not good at impressing any guys. I keep missing chances to hang out or even date guys. Nowadays, other women are very good at impressing guys. Of course, guys pay attention to those impressive women, not a quiet little individual like me. I feel regretted that I did not try hard to impress my work husband at the beginning. The right guy may come along, but I am not good at impressing him. That is sad.