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my boyfriend does not trust me

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Ok I dont know where to start but I am going to try making this as short as possible. I met my boyfriend a year ago and from the beginning he was very into me. Prior to meeting him I use to date guys who promoted for a living, biggest mistake ever, and use to make me feel nuts whenever I would question a female or show jelousy. I spent 4 years with a promoter who conviced me I was overly jelous and noone was going to love me because of it. I was surrounded by coiples who all partied and talked to a bunchn of people from both sexes and had no problem so I felt it was me just being inscure. Stupid but I believed it. So when I met my current boyfriend I expected him to be like the rest and continued to talk to male friends, be very social when we wentnout, stayed friends with exs but never did I cheat. But showing him this side made him see me as a slut, but he continued with me as long as I changed. And I did. I deleted fb, stopped going out, cut off my friends and even quit my job because one night I went out with co workers while we were dating, he called me and heard males in the background assuming I cheated. I didnt I was with a group of coworkers. This all happened 3 months into our relationship. Then I cut off everything. Anways since then I have kept my word and cut off everything, but he keeps hurting me and blaming our beginning for his behavior. I deal with it because I feel I still need to prove to him im not the whore he thinks I am. I catch him talking to other girls and its because of how I acted in the beginning, he will have a craxy thoughtnof me cheating and lash out calling me a whore slut etc , and dump me out of nowhere. He wont let me work without worrying and treating me like im a liar, he always thinksbim checking out other men and will explode whenbin reality I am not. Anyways I know it sounds terrible butbwhen were good were amazing which is why I love him. What should I do to fix this though? Did I damage this completely from the beginning??

my boyfriend does not trust me

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No Manda, you haven't damaged anything! Your BF is controlling and insecure. He is also a verbal abuser. He has managed to isolate you from your 'everything' as you state. Classic behavior of an insecure person. You on the other hand, were on the right track where you mingled with everyone, which is your right. You don't have to change and none of us have the right to change someone when we are in a relationship. We should just accept our partner as they are. We all have the choice; accept or move on. Discuss with your BF how he hasn't the right to manipulate you. While you stay with him, you will enable him to do just that...manipulate you. You need someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated...not someone who emotionally and verbally abuses you as well as blames you for their flawed and defective character.

my boyfriend does not trust me

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Thank you so much for your reply I needed that right now. He broke up with me 15 min ago saying my "slutty past" will screw up any relationship. And once a whore always a whore. I cant change the way he sees me. It just hurts because I never cheated. Thank you so much again!!

my boyfriend does not trust me

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It was his confidence problem you faced. No matter what you do. even if you lock yourself in a room to which only he had a key, he would have accused you. If a man is confident of himself he wouldn't keep doubting you unnecessarily. Go out and socialize, meet new people and forget him. He would have never been able to keep you happy in the long run.

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